I really am this clueless!

Ok so I went on a date wtih this guy about 2 weeks ago and I thought it went really well - we got a long really great and have heaps in common. He called me later that night to tell me that he had a really nice time and wanted to see me again so I assumed that it meant he was interested and that this might actually go somewhere.

However, in the two weeks since I haven't seen him, he was talking to me, sending flirty text messages etc and then all of a sudden nothing for like a week. Then out of the blue sends me a message asking how I was - but that was it. Its like all of a sudden he has gone off me - for no reason that I can tell. Its just weird cos he seemed so into me for a while.

And I don't really understand why he would get back in touch with me at all if he wasn't at all interested.

(Just as a side note - he has worked everyday since our date and he often works up to an 15 hour day. He could of course be lying to me I suppose)

 

I would appreciate someone saying something!

I don't care if you think its not what I want to hear - I would just like to know wht people with more experience than me think!!!

 

Well its hard telling what he is thinking at this time. For only 2 weeks going by, I think he has done enough to show he has some interest. You only went on one date, its not like he has to call you everyday. He showed some interest, so just make sure you show some to and wait for the next date. If you want, ask him out sometime.

 

Did you ever take the initiative to call him back? Or be the one to start your text messaging? I agree with Haid - let him know you're into him too. It's annoying for guys having to chase around girls and be expected to read their minds. If you have already taken the initiative, great!

I think you made the wrong assumption thinking that after just one good hang out that you two would hit it off for sure. It was only one - and it could have just been a good time.

 

He could have been out of town with no access to a computer, sick, or just exhausted from his work. Call him.

 

call him, us guys are notoriously bad about calling back when we are supposed to, even if we want to!

 

he could be dead.

 

^^ lol that made me laugh and a lil ashamed too.


but yea, reading your post it sounded like he was the only one showing interest, but maybe u did too and just didnt say it.
so either he thinks u're not interested and gave up on chasing after u. or hes got another gf and she found out. that'd be bad i know.

 

yep.

 

Viva France...just felt like saying it - never mind.

 

My first thought was that there is someone else in the picture. That feeling faded a little when you said he has worked 15 hours per day every day since. Maybe he jus good at what he is doing. He's got you wondering about him instead of the other way around. From a guy's perspective all is going well for him.

 

I think I have shown interest - calling him, messaging him etc (not like a stalker - just every now and then) but he seems to run really hot and cold.

Ahh maybe he is just a player? He asked me to come over the other day ( I couldn't cos I was out of town) and then didn't talk to me for a few days, yet he called me for New Years even though he had just worked almost 24 hours straight.

Ahh well, I have never been lucky with guys so I don't really know why I expected it would change! (That was just stating a fact, not meant to sound like I wanted people to feel sorry for me).

Our first date was like a whole day thing - just for reference.

 

i think you should play it by ear n just let things happen .....put in 50% of the calling n messages [and dont be keeping time on that shit , be patient ] just be yourself and enjoy not knowing what might happen .

 

i think you should call him i do

 

ok so he told me last night that he loves talking to me because we have the best conversations and I make him laugh - that has to be a good thing right?

 

well if u wanna be his best buddy for life yea...

 

oh great, thats just what I need

 

He invited me out to his place for a sleepover on the weekend, so I think I have a better idea of where this is going - thanks for your advice though!

 

Hmm. Try not to get to sucked in to this one. Sounds to me like there is a chance this one could be short lived. I hope not though, good luck!

 

Possibly - but I'll never know if I don't give it a chance. We had a good talk the other day thought and talked a few things through and some of his actions make alot more sense to me now.
But like I said - its worth giving it a chance!