How much do you value other people's opinion?

Discussion in 'Random Thoughts' started by Watermellowny, Dec 30, 2006.

  1. Watermellowny

    Watermellowny Member

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    I found my self considering very important what other people think about me, my deeds etc.
    Should we care whether people like us? And how to stop caring so much?!
     
  2. TopNotchStoner

    TopNotchStoner Georgia Homegrown

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    I think it is important to value others' opinions, but you shouldn't let it dictate your actions.
     
  3. BraveSirRubin

    BraveSirRubin Members

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    What others think of me?

    Bah, I don't give a shit.

    They love me anyhow, probebly for the same reason.
     
  4. mynameiskc

    mynameiskc way to go noogs!

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    yeah, it's hit or miss with me. i've figured out over the years that there's no pleasing everyone, so why bother trying? though i try to be respectful.
     
  5. Giant

    Giant Member

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    I choose my overall direction. My close friends can sometimes sway me over what clothes to wear as I have a habit of wearing red and black with everything.
     
  6. fitzy21

    fitzy21 Worst RT Mod EVAH!!!!

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    for the general public - i dont' give a fuck what they think

    my close friends - i do care, they're the ones who know me, so i care what they think, or what they think i'm doing wrong or if they think i'm doing something great - i'd like to know. if a close friend thinks i'm doing something bad or making bad decisions, i want them to speak up and tell me. that doesn't mean i'll change, but i will listen and talk about it. i know i'm not perfect, i know i have faults and in my experience its only been my close friends to bring it up
     
  7. stinkfoot

    stinkfoot truth

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    I'm with fitzy on this one.
     
  8. RELAYER

    RELAYER mādhyamaka

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    Read my sig, that should explain it, as well as why I rule the earth, and all that is in it.
     
  9. indian~summer

    indian~summer yo ho & a bottle of yum

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    i'm also with fitzy on this...
    i find i am completely clueless about everything, and if people don't bring up what's annoying them or whatever i won't be able to change...i do obsess over certain things people say to me, but that's just cause ocd runs in my family :D
    but for the most part, expecially lately, i've been trying to mellow out and really not give a shit what people think...
     
  10. cerridwen

    cerridwen in stitches

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    If I'm in a situation where I'm truly stuck between 2 decisions, then I absolutely take into account the opinions of people around me, because they often have a better perspective on my situation, so it helps.

    But do I care of others opinions when I don't ask for it? Not usually, and if I do, I don't let it get to me.
     
  11. Bella Désordre

    Bella Désordre Charmed

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    Not enough from the people who matter and too much from the people who do not. One of my new goals for this year is to take to listen with open ears and a closed mouth and think about the advice those who care about me give and to dismiss negativity from those who do not.

    In general I do not care too much about others and their opinion's of me. A lot of people think I am a snob or gossip that I gained a lot of my weight back, lost my job, live at home...but those people don't have my best interest at heart and I am still me even though I am not some skinny gorgeous girl anymore with a cool condo, job and rich boyfriend and rich dad. People who have enjoyed watching me 'fall' (from societal standards) son't realize that I have gained far more than I have lost (and I am not talking weight).
    It was a struggle for me not to care, but one day I woke up and just didn't anymore. I think it was this quote I read: 'Evil people wish things upon others, good people wish things for themselve's'. That was a life-changing sentence for me. I think that's goin on my MySpace now :)
     
  12. GermanLoveMachine

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    I would valiue them as much as I value the people from which the opinion comes...
     
  13. ledzeppelinlover

    ledzeppelinlover Member

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    not really that important to me, depends on the person though.
     
  14. enlightenment

    enlightenment Member

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    Hello, all!

    Depends on who these people are... I certainly listen to good friends and those whom I accept as my teachers, somewhat less to my family, and least to strangers.

    What can make me really mad [​IMG], though, is unasked-for advice, given in that certain arrogant way... This is something I won't accept at all... (So sometimes I wonder why I let it make me so angry.)


    Love,
    e.
     
  15. Lodui

    Lodui One Man Orgy

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    I used to be very concerned with what others thought of me.

    Now, not very much at all.
     
  16. mynameiskc

    mynameiskc way to go noogs!

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    (in best preachy voice) yeah, youngun', you shouldn't let it bother you. people giving advice mean no harm...blah blah blah.

    i'm the best at that.
     
  17. crummyrummy

    crummyrummy Brew Your Own Beer Lifetime Supporter

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    I only value the opinion of the poster above me and the poster below me
     
  18. mynameiskc

    mynameiskc way to go noogs!

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    it's mine!!! all mine!!! i created you!!!
     
  19. enlightenment

    enlightenment Member

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    Hey, yes, obviously you know what I mean... :D

    Love,
    e.
     
  20. Balloonatic

    Balloonatic Senior Member

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    not at all.
     

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