Probably the worst argument that I've ever had with my dad. I had just gotten home from visiting my mom in the ICU and my mind was filled with crap before I even knew she was hospitalized. I get home and he starts droning on about this and that and all this crap I don't want to hear. I get very tense. Then he does something unusual - he asks me what book I'm reading. He has never asked me this. He has never cared where I went or who I know or what I'm good at or who I've dated. He never threw baseballs to me or took me sledding or any of that all american crap. And now i'm older so I shouldn't care. But he had me at a bad moment. I snapped about the book and it escalated to me telling him that he has never showed any interest in me. He flips out, saying how hard he has worked and that he's been sick with insomnia my whole life (both are true). He tells me I can't use his car anymore, even to get to work, and I need to start paying rent, and for a bunch of other things I don't usually pay for. This would be good punishment if I was ungrateful, but I'm not. And he doesn't think I'm ungrateful anyway. And he claims its not to teach me a lesson. It's punishment for hurting him, for telling him what I actually think of him. But all I did was tell him something that he already knows in the heat of a dispute. I never said he doesn't care about me, just the things I did. And that's Damn True. I don't know whether to feel guilty for childishly degrading a man who has given his life for me or if I should resent the idiotic way that he has interpreted something that we both agree to be true. The money is irrelevent. I actually feel like I have no father.
Let a little bit of time pass, you both are under pressure because of you mothers condition. Tomorrow try talking to him about what happened. Things will get better. I went through similar things with my parents.
I could never criticize my parents about ANYTHING, even if it made perfect sense.. It was a little bit ridiculous. I know how you feel, and honestly, I just shut up about everything and kiss their ass and everything is okay. One time my brother confronted my mom about how they supposedly loved my sister's kids more than his and I thought my mom was going to die of a panic attack... it was quite scarey and since then I never bring anything that will make her react like that up.
when they need it. always my thing. no ass kissin. draw him out to breaking point n you be sincere. folks need to shatter.specially if u got sum fragile shit.folks dont sleep fer a reason. he needs to be doin sum shit. u goin easy is a weakhearted thing for him n you.most folks dont do shit till it hurts way too bad to do anything else. then ya go oh well . i feel stupid. fear builds more on a thing than what actually was. hes scared. your here better do shit now. 22 is irrelevant.if u cant fix it you cant. but if yer tendertoin outta fear yer doin you n him bad. icu aint appropriate fer arguments tho. future stuff if a 3rd party was in icu. men are slow men r thick. hence sum need of a heavy stick.wack wack wack.you dont argue much. thats unusual. fer family i mean. too fragile. smash n grab. hurt n hold. you prolly hurt each other aqnyway. make it obvious enough to merit action.
Both of you are in pain right now , and things get said , its a release valve , just , let things calm down , neither of you meant to blow up. Hes your dad , he loves you , things will be ok..........my best advice , you dont have to say anything at all , just give him a smile......he will know what you mean.
