Got any tips for feeling out a shy girl to see what's up? Just.. a chick I'm dating seems a little shy sometimes, but I know she's into me. I'm just curious to what extent. ya know what I mean?
it would help if you were a bit more clear in your post. By "feeling out", are you talking about sex, feelings, just gtting her to speak her mind more often? Whichever of those it is, encouragement, closeness, humour and creating trust and a safe feeling is a good start. But if you post more detail I'm sure that more specific advice will follow
try just asking her and being patient and listening or is that too simple and odvios? ya see if shes real shy, and ya ask her, if she just says mmhmmm when u ask do u feel good bout our relationship..it could mean so much more then someone more expressive emotionaly who goes off on a 4 hour rant about how wonderfully happy they are.. maybe the questions more qabout how do you feel secure in a less expressive relationship?
So I'm assuming that she isn't the kind of person who will speak up when something is wrong? I used to go out with someone who was like that. The way i found to help was really showing that I cared about how they felt, and it was okay for them to have something to complain about. So here's what I suggest: ~ Regularly ask how she's doing / ask her how she feels about the relationship ~ LISTEN when she replies ~ Listen to the other things - signs she gives, things she doesn't say, topics she avoids, body language - if she's shy she may not verbally tell you how she's going straight out ~ Tell her you care about how she feels, and if she's got a problem can she please tell you so you can fix it TOGETHER ~ If she does have a problem, work on it rather than blaming or getting annoyed / upset with her Of course, you don't want to continually ask her "are you okay?" because that would get irritating and she might think that there IS something wrong, or that there should be or something. If you don't mind, why do you think she might NOT be okay? Has she indicated that there might be something wrong but won't tell you what or anything? Have you asked her about how she's doing and how she feels yet? Have you talked to her about her shyness?
Oh she's only slightly shy, how I see her. So it's not bad at all to express emotions.. but for me it's hard to interpret each person's different ones.. everyone is different.. and she is puzzling me. hahah
We're kinda early in our relationship, so there is no real need for it, I'm just curious of what cues I should be looking for.. it's hard to explain, I guess.. I'd rather not just ask her and seem not myself. I'd like to glide into it without any mention. I guess soaringeagle is right, I should just be patient and continue to listen :] thanks, all
If she was my girlfriend i wouldnt want her to change. I think shyness is cute, maybe its just me but i dig that in a girl lol.
just be patient with her and give her time, its fun finding out about people and getting to know them
1. she's not my girlfriend, we've been dating. there is a difference 2. I'm not asking her to change, I just want to know what's running through her head and I don't want to ask her. I just wanted to clear that up because it was bugging me
She may be inexperienced sexually, or in dating, and is just learning the ground rules. Remember that there are STDs out there, even for teenagers, and if things are not done right she can get pregnant. She has to gain confidence that sex will be a positive and not a negative thing.
