Should i fight, cos i really dont want to lie down

I asked this girl out for coffee yesterday, as i was quite sure she was also interested in me. She said yes, but today when we were going to organise a date, she said she had a problem and that there was someone else and if i had asked 2 weeks ago she would have deffinately said yes.

I talked to her best friend before i asked and he said she had been waiting for me to make a move for quite a while. And that she had been holding off with this guy incase i asked her out.

Im positive she is still interested in me, but have a feeling she doesnt want to suddenly break up with this guy after 4 days dating and look terrible, (thats what im hoping for)

What i want to do is hang out with her as friends, still grab the coffee, but not in date mode. Should i ask her again, and say just as friends. If i completely stay away from her, she wont think about me, but if i show her i really do care she might think about me.

I work with her and for 5 hours today, we were clicking, before and after she told me the bad news. We must have caught eyes 100's of times, and each had a smile.

I think i owe it to her to make all the moves because i made her wait so long, but i dont want to make her awkward. I got the impression it wasnt a no, more of a wish i could but...

(please dont think of me as big headed or up myself, im totally the opposite, weak and scared, which is why it took me so long to ask)

 

If she's only been dating him for 4 days, and isn't bf/gf, it's not really breaking up it's just stopping seeing them.
And I think it's a rather lame excuse on her part, especially if she has in fact been waiting for you to ask her out.

 

Stare deeply into her eyes and say.

"He doesn't feel the same way I do. I'd like to grab lunch with you."

It'll either work or it won't. But you'll be clear.

 

Tell her you are sorry you did not ask her out before, and that you will be waiting for her if she decides to break up with the other guy or wants to date you too.

 

*drools* you can say that to me any day sexy
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I dunno about the "I'd like to grab lunch with you" line per se, could be classier "I'd love to have lunch with you" maybe. but, uh, that's just being nitpicky. Mostly I have to drool after Lodui (hey, nothin like being a groupie eh?)

 

let her know you care, go for it and take the plunge!! let us know what happens
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I would just continue to flirt around with her...Politely let her know you like her by callin her, stoppin by and just hangin out. Stop making a plan and just let things fall into place.....but thats me

 

STEP 1. aquire a large, wooden crate

STEP 2. fill the crate with candy

STEP 3. hide behind something and watch her approach

STEP 4. as soon as she starts sniffing the crate, run up behind her and gently push her fat ass so she tumbles neatly into the crate

STEP 5. nail the lid of the crate down while she sqeaks and tries to climb up the side of the crate to get out

STEP 6. mark the crate "CAUTION: HAMPSTERS"

STEP 7. mail the crate to peru

STEP 8. problem solved. everyone is happy.

 

tmt, that's funny hahahahahaa, lol, lol, lol!! hehehehehee

 

I'd say, "Let's have lunch, 'cuz I'd love to check out your salad bar, baby"

 

Ok this is what you should NOT do, do not approach her from the angle of just being friends because it can be very hard for women to see you as anything other then a friend once they see you that way, which is fine if thats what you want. But obviously it's not what you want, so in a way it's even dishonest.

Go with Lodui's advice, as he said she might still say no but atleast everyone knows where they stand. Not to mention i bet she is just dying for you to take charge.