Okay, this is embarassing but I can't give head. I just plain suck at it. I'm really good at all except giving head. It's like I can't open my mouth wide enough, it hurts and my jaw pops almost out of place. But when I do get my mouth to open wide enough I'm clueless on what to do. Help!!!!!
Just do what comes naturally. The underside is the most sensitive part. Start by slowly taking it in your mouth and rubbing the underside with your tongue. Let it go in and out slowly. Ask your partner how he likes it. Some like it fast, some like to have their balls rubbed while you go down, everyone is different. You can try gently holding the head between your teeth and flicking the head with your teeth. In your second sentence, you gave yourself another suggestion. Suck on it! If you and your partner work together you will both enjoy it and be satisfied. IMHO, the worst thing a woman can do is spit. That is a turn-off to most men. Maybe you have difficulties because you are apprehensive and have inhibitions. Just relax and let nature take its course.
Having never given head myself (yet) I can't talk from experiance... but a very good friend of mine told me that if you're going to swollow - swollow fast. She says that a lot of people don't like the taste, but if you're quick enough to swollow it, you won't be able to taste, and everyone is happy. Now I'm not saying that you have to swollow, that's up to you, but if you do choose to swollow, do it fast and you'll be fine.
There are a lot of things you can do when giving a bj.. don't see it as a goal to stuff the whole thing in.. just take it slow and tease him, that's at least half the fun. You can start out very slowly.. just act like you're taking him in your mouth, but stop right before that and just let him feel your hot breath on his head.. then slowly and very sensually start licking his penis.. let him feel your warm tongue. This also puts on some 'lube', so it'll slide in your mouth more easily. Now, start using your lips and tongue together.. kiss the penis with warm wet kisses.. don't miss a spot! If you feel like you're ready and teased enough, carefully take the penis in your mouth (watch out that you don't hurt him with your teeth!). If you have trouble getting enough in, grab the shaft with your hand and help out that way. With the other hand you can play with his balls, nipples, or yourself If you're comfortable with all this and maybe practised it a bit, you can do stuff like deepthroating.. if the guy has a small penis you can even try to deepthroat and lick his balls at the same time *grin* Also, try to make it seem like you're enjoying doing this.. it may sound weird, but it must seem like a turn off for the guy if you're sighing and struggling down there. Although.. if you really don't like it.. then maybe you shouldn't do it.. don't do anything against your will. Same goes for swallowing: guys seem to love that, but a lot of women (including myself) don't. Don't do it because you feel obligated or anything! But swallowing is a whole other discussion I guess. Okay.. hope I was of some help!
