Why do guys always say women are complicated?

And then act like they are so simplistic? I mean I guess we are all very complex as human beings and stuff. But I think guys blow our female perspectives out of proportion.

For example, there is this guy I like (who by the way has been totally leading me on)and he always says how complex girls are. Finally, I get the courage to ask him if he is interested and he says "Well yes, I am very intereseted in you, however, I am not emotionally ready for a relationship"
It's respectable, don't get me wrong, just annoying after all his complaining about our complexities and then turning around and doing something like that.

So why do guys do it?

 

They do it for a lot of reasons. A lot of them actually believe it. Some of them just joke about it for so long that they believe it. But I think most of the guys who say things like that have just be raised to think there is a big difference between men and women, and this is the way they express this percieved difference. Plus, most of them are just idiots.

 

Humans are complicated.

 

because they are men

 

It's not so much that we men think that women are complicated, it's just that your thought patterns and behaviours can seem odd to us. It's a scientific fact that mens and womens brains are 'wired' differently, and the sexes interpret reality differently in certain ways, particularly human interaction. Neither sex is more 'complicated', it's just we men don't often understand the way that women behave. I'll bet that's the number one question people will ask God when they meet Him: 'What's up with the whole men and women thing?'

 

that's a fair point cg by the way good question

 

I just think that it's a misunderstanding between genders. While men and woman have countless things alike, they also think differently sometimes, and I think that can lead to believing that the other's way of thinking in a certain area in nonsense.

 

I hate how men think this. They don't realise that to us women they themselves seem complicated. They can't seem to understand it's just a matter of perception. It really frustrates me when my boyfriend says i'm complicated, over-reacting and being a 'typical girl' and says he wishes women were more 'simple' like men! I don't think they're simple at all. And why when a woman is reacting differently to something than a man she's automatically being 'typical' and complicated? All humans react differently, why does it have to be about gender?

 

men are truds. you just gotta find the right trud that stinks the least.

if that helps or not. i dont know, im pretty damn drunk at this moment


but men can suck to women as women suck to men. thats why i say people suck. just gotta find that right person. yadda yadda yadaa

 

From a guy's point of view, we are complicated too. We just don't show it like women. It's a guy thing... lol

 

Because they are too stupid to understand us ha ha ha kidin

 

Hmm...complex is not really a word I would use (as a guy) to describe women in general. They just happen to be female and that influences their worldview the way being male influences men's worldview. It is the differences between worldviews that make women seem complex to men. But in reality, I think we are all complex in our own way, men as well as women.

Anyway, it seems like this guy is using this "girls are so complex" reasoning to excuse his own complexity (read that, his desire for you apparently not being enough reason to become emotionally involved with you). Or something like that. I'm not sure if I'm being clear and I really don't have time to type a more complete answer. If you like you can PM me.

 

But that isn'
t the whole story. There is plenty of the stereotyping type thing going on too. That's not to mention the whole seperation that society forces on us. We are told from birth that the genders are different. The dual construct of genders are enforced in so many ways from as simple as the pink/blue thing to automatically buying girls dolls & boys trucks. It creates a mystique that is inhearent to any unknown. Then there's the simple fact that many of the reactions & emotions are displayed differently. For example, when I get mad I'm more likely to cry whereas the gus I know in general are going to yell much more easily. A lot of all of that is learned behavior, I think. We are taught that it's not polite to yell, we are encouraged to be friendly & complient where boys are taught to dominate & be forceful.

 

Which just shows that being complicated isn't the sole property of women. Even us guys can be complicated.

 

From my experiences men are such drama queens. They thrive on it. Try not taking the bait next time your guy starts a fight...see what happens. I've never had a guy be happy with who I am, either I am accussed on cheating or flirting, am told I don't pay enough attention to him, am not into sex enough, don't call them for one day and they flip the fuck out. They seriously expect you to make serious lifestyle changes for them when they are unwilling to bend at all. God my last relationship ended because I couldn't go ride quads in the desert because I couldn't get the fucking time off work...and I was so sick of hearing about it and it being thrown in my face I jetted. In my experience it's never been what I did but the few things I didn't do that always get brought up. And the guys who are drama free don't have any abition or motivation in life and that annoys me more than the drama.
If someone doesn't like me for the way I am now why in the world would they ask me out? It makes no fucking sense...sorry but god damn I needed to vent.

 

because we are.

really, i just think it's because, typically, girl's express their feelings more and guys are incapable of understanding how they feel, so they just label us as "complicated." i don't mean that in any disrespect for either guys or gals.

 

:agree: LOL! Yeah, guilty as charged here (sometimes, anyway), although I've never accused any girl of cheating or flirting or any of the other stuff you've mentioned. But yeah, I can be a drama queen. But so can women in my experience. I can't tell you how many times I used to play therapist to my female friends while they would tell me their sob stories about their boyfriends. I think we all have a drama queen in us, whether we're men or women.

 

to me, it depends on how you define 'complicated'.
do you mean, woman are more complicated on a physical, mental, emotional or social level?
for the emotional part, i'd say there's highly emotional men, and shallow women...and then there's highly shallow men, and emotional women. men are more complicated with their emotions though, as most men dont share their rooted emotions. ive seen some women that get really frustrated 'cos they know somethings up with their male partner, but he just shrugs it off, and changes the subject. also, men usually take on the females emotional burdens, without getting any, or little, release for themselves.
but i mean, that can be vice versa too. human interaction is a fucked up thing. no one will understand it fully.