Worried i'm like my Dad

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Your parents are where we learn most things in our lives...good and bad.

I'm like both my mom and my dad...and I'm thankful for that. I have a short temper like my mom and my dad's sense of humor...it evens it all out. We become a combination of both...not letting one shadow the other.

 

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I don't think a sense of humor is a bad trait....

 

Yes, I have traits of both my mother as well as my father that I try my hardest not to indulge in. When I notice myself saying or doing something like one of my parents, I try to step back and put a stop to it immediately. I'm not talking about switching lights on or the way they open a door, I'm talking about destructive habits.

I think many times, when we're young, we try out hardest not to be like our parents because of the natural rebellious phases of adolscence. I think it's part of finding out who we really are, distinguishing ourselves as a seperate individual. It's not uncommon.

I think what you're feeling is probably quite natural for this stage of your life.

 

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“I am serious, so I laugh a lot. You need to laugh. You don't laugh enough. I don't trust anyone who doesn't laugh.” Maya Angelou

 

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Maya Angelou is a brilliant American writer and author...and you know what, her opinions are just as valid as yours...so if she's not right, neither are you.

 

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You should read more, it's good for your brain and your soul.

And it's just a quote for crying out loud. Lighten up.

 

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if that is the case then why read or why post.

We are all composites of what we are.........get over it, it is what we choose to do with the composite that matters.

A life we choose rather than whine about what is.......what a concept. We choose.

 

"Do what you want with yourself, for it is you."
-me

*snaps fingers*

 

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Seriously,

GET OVER IT!

 

I am a lot like my mom, but it doesn't bug me. Because we're so much alike, at times we'e more like best friends than mother and daughter. Granted that means that I have some of her less desirable traits as well (i.e. short temper, stubborn) but I just take it in stride. I'm not very much like my dad, I think b/c he pretty much hit the road after I was born, but every once in a while, I'll make a face, or a comment, and my mom will be like "you look/act so much like your dad sometimes, it freaks me out." On the other hand, I have a ton of the same traits as my stepdad, who raised me from the time I was 8. Lends a lot of confusion to the whole nature vs. nurture debate (a least for me).

 

Chris - write down on a piece of paper the traits you like and don't like about yourself, and then do the same for your parents. Put the paper down and then look at it the next day and see if you want to add, subtract or change anything.

Then compare your positive and negative traits with those of your parents to see which one you are most like.

It is called heredity - if both your parents have blue eyes, so will you, most likely. Same thing with left handedness, nose size, skin color, height, body size, length of life, etc. You can't choose your parents, and what genes they give you. Just hope they don't give you a propensity for cancer or heart attacks. And hope that they gave you smarts - it seems like they did.

 

Chris -- I am just like my Dad. In every way. Likes, Dislikes, Rebelism, Music, etc. It's one of the weirdest things. But hey, at least he gets why I'm a hippie.

Having someone that understands you is awesome.

But, it can also be a bad thing.

Just depends on the way you look at it.

Peace and Love,

August/Basil