What happens when you just can't have an orgasm? I've been with a few different people and none of them seem to have given me one. My current boyfriend and I have been trying for about 8 months and I just can't have an orgasm. He says he's never had this problem before. So uh, has anyone else ever experienced this?...and is there a way to help? :/
Of course there's other mechanisms than the penis: finger on clit, tongue on clit, finger on 'G' and tongue on clit. Sometimes the extraordinary breaks the ice pack and leads to abilities unknown! He's never been with a woman who failed to orgasm? He's been lonely most of his life. Women are fortunate, enjoying sex without having to orgasm all the time. Maybe you're trying too hard. New boyfriend, lottsa patience and understanding might also help. There is such a thing as a too demanding lover!
gopinky, what ways have you tried to cum with your boyfriend / with previous boyfriends / on your own? have you ever cum before in your life? has there been anything that has gotten you really excited and you thought you might cum...but then you didn't? answering these should help us help you in a bit more detail. but don't worry, i didn't have my first orgasm 'till i was 18 or 19 and that was totally by accident. up to that point in my life i'd convinced myself i just "couldn't cum". so don't worry little ducky - we good people of the hipforums will work out some way for you to get off, never fear!!! :-D
some girls just cant cum during sex while being penitrated, can ya make your self do it if you play around?? we are shure we can help you out... at least, we will have a dam good try to anyway {{{hugs}}} l xx
Poor girl, try to relax and let it come naturally! You should start with foreplay and oral sex, you should reach your first orgasm after that if he goes slow and does it right......then work on vaginal orgasms afterward! Best wishes
I don't usually masterbate. Like, rarely ever. I don't really get horny unless I'm in the right mind set. I don't really get super excited during sex. Like, it just kind of happens, and then he's done, and I still feel the same. Sometimes, he says that there was no way that I didn't go because there was cum all over and stuff, but I know that I didn't feel anything that was better than the rest of the experience..
I think the cum being all over is part his and part of your wetness (natural) If you had a good orgasm you would know because your body would tingle and you would feel a gush of wetness leaving you! You have to know how to please yourself before you can please others....I would recommend when you are horney and by your self rub/vibe your clit until you cant take it any more and experience an orgasm, from there it will become easier if you are comfortable....and dont worry about making a mess, that is why we have washing machines! GL!
As I have noted in other posts, 25% of women can get an orgasm through intercourse alone, 25% through intercourse and manual stimulation of the clitoris at the same time, 25% from manual stimulation alone, and 25% never have orgasms. Focus on the g-spot with your mate learning how to do it, with your help, as you stimulate your clitoris. You will get a double orgasm which will blow your socks off, if you are wearing any.
