ok so last night we tried me on top yet again!! if i leaned forward i could move towards his chest and back again, however to be honest, i couldnt feel much other than his size and if and when he would come out!! as for my clit, well nothing touched it at all no matter how or what i tried, to be honest i couldnt even tell that i had one!! so how can you grind against his pubic bone when once inside im half way up from the base to his belly button? i cant get any closer than that, not without snapping him!!!! so after a while i said ok i will try reverse, facing his feet. when i was putting him in this was very difficult but once in it was even worse it was impossible for me to move as i couldnt feel a thing, i couldnt tell how far in he was i couldnt move at all !! i gave it 5 mins like this and in the end gave up, being honest he said thank god as he was so uncomfortable like that!!! so back to facing him, i can move if im leaning forward but once i try sitting straight up i cant move at all. i cant go up and down, i cant do circles i just cant move at all even doing the kegels is out as i tried that and just cant squeaze. its like being in that position paralises my body!!! i have really tried giving it my best shot but i really cant understand how women can say this feels so good as there just is no way i can do it and get any feeling at all no matter what we do. help!!!!!
Feels brilliant to me. I just sit up there, lean forward but usually only slightly, and go for it. Hip motion etc...and your thighs can push you up. Its easy and feels good. As for your clit, use your hands!
thats the thing though i cant move my hips like that in that position nothing will move at all once up right. i cant rub my clit, an he cant reach it unless he pulls his arm out of the joint to get around at the angle to reach!!! it really feels of nothing for the amount of effort that i really really try to put into it theres no feeling inside of me other than his size, its very hard to tell if hes going to fall out and i just cant get any contact on my clit at all!! btw he not a small man either! as his size is larger than average penis wise.
we have just about worked our way through the kama sutra!!! and its the same in all positions!!!, i have only perservered with this as i though i was doing something wrong etc etc, i really cant move once upright and its driving me nuts!!! i cant grind, ive got nothing to grind on to!!! and reverse was awful it felt of absolutely nothing in there i could eve feel if he was coming out of me!!!! not the way its been portrayed though as the bees knees of positions, think ive been led down the garden path again on this one!!!
Darkangel - The woman on top position is good because the woman is in control and can alter the angle of the penis inside her. She can even get a little g spot stimulation if the penis is short, and has an upwards "banana" angle when erect, or is a little soft. Another thing you can do is to put your feet under you, your hands on his hips, and move up and down on his penis. Have him assist you by putting his hands under your buttocks and using his arm strength to help lift you up as you go upwards. I guarantee that this will improve it for you - and for him. You can do the same with "reverse cowboy", facing his feet, with your arms on his legs as you go up, and his hands on yojur buttocks.
i couldnt tell if he was still in me when like this, and i tried for 5 mins but i just couldnt find anything to inspire me or him
I guess different positions work for different people. The women you heard the hype off most likely preffered this one.
thats why large dicks are overrated. you need to find a man who knows how to use what he has got......
Darkangel - What you say is strange. If your man has a 7"- 8" penis erect and you cannot feel it inside you in the woman on top position, something is wrong. Perhaps you don't have full sensation in your pelvic area. If you put your feet under you, hands on his hips, and move up and down with his hands on your buttocks assisting your up and down movements, ask him what he sees. I guarantee he will see his penis going in and out of your vagina, a sure turnon for him. And if he is going in 7-8 inches, it is hard to believe that you are feeling nothing. Try again.
darkangel, aren't you the one who's suffering from vulvodynia (I believe that's how it's spelt at least)? That could be a major player in why this position isn't good for you. So it ain't great, whatever, move on, find one that works for ya. I'm not a big fan of being on top either... I can feel him inside but he slips out easier, I don't get the tempo I like (I just can't move that fast/hard for some reason), I don't like being in control, etc etc etc. Just not my favourite position, so I don't use it very often.
yeah, you just need to keep trying to find out what works for you. dont worry about what other people say is good. dont expect something to be good or bad just because someone said it was good for them. everyone is different. and sex is one of the more personal things ever, so you really just have to find what works for you. nobody can tell you how to make yourself feel good, you just have to learn.
