I literally Hate depression.

I can honestly say that I dislike a majority of depressed people, i guess that makes me a horrible person? Some people can really have it, like if their whole familly just died, one would expect the left over member to be depressed for a while. But when your girlfriend for 4 months or something like that dumps you, and you make a few suicide attempts... Its an imbalance in your brain i guess, but i have seen depressed people happy plenty of times, if they say their life isnt worth living, just shut up and live for that. Im just venting a bit because of my friend who popped tons of random pills because he was in a "bad mood". He had no idea what these pills would do when mixed, so he went to the hospital. I guess i just can't see how someone can think that at the age of 16 life isnt worth living. I think that these people want attention, and i mean no offense towards any one by saying what i have said. So sorry if it bothers you.

 

I can understand, it is very hard being close to someone who attempts suicide wether they were actually trying to kill themselves or a cry for help, either way it is hard.

 

I hope you get depressed one day.

 

yesterday was blue monday, it's supposed to be the worst day for depression...
i've been depressed and i've had many depressed people in my life, i understand how it can be frustrating to go through...

 

i think it's a valid emotional response to the pain you feel when someone you care for is depressed. i'm one of those people who gets into a good rage when someone i care about is fighting an inexplicable disease. i respond to being depressed by getting angry. it shakes me out of it. turns out, when people around me get depressed, i get angry then, too. maybe i'm hoping the energy will reset their chemistry. no.. it doesn't make you a bad person. just makes you a person. i'd be careful how i let those feelings show, though, since they can really send someone over the edge.

 

Depression is horrible, but I think that it is so different for everyone because sometimes it is just an imbalance since everyone in the world is thrown a bad deal every now and then, some more so than others, and it's up to all of us to decide how we are going to react to every bad situation. I tend to think though that cries for help and attempted suicide that is not gaurenteed to end in death are more or less people refusing to help themselves or allow others to help them, almost like a case of severe laziness rather than a genuine mental disorder, like the same emotion we feel when, lets say a loved one leaves us and hurts us emtionally, and we refuse to get over it and move on, I see that as the same thing as waking up in the morning and its cold and raining outside so we refuse to get ourselves up and out of bed and go into work. NOT saying this is the case with everyone who is "depressed" I am not a psychologist but I have been told I am suffering bi-polar disorder when I was about 12, then I went to a different doctor at 14 and was diagnosed with paranoid, delusional schizophrenia lol. I only went to those 2 doctors, the first one I saw about 3 times, the other only once, and I have never taken medication or gone through any realy therapy, nor have I even received and sort of help, advice, or guidance from anyone. No one paid any attention to the way I was feeling growing up, and even the girl I was formerly engaged to claimed to have been going through bouts of bi-polar and SHE didnt understand how I would get sometimes, and she never once hugged me or tried to help me when I would be going through delusional hell. So, I think I have a strong enough grip on my situation and can just seperate myself from others when I start to hear the noises and have the hallucinations and I calm myself down. I firmly do not believe in therapy or medication, at least when it comes to my own personal case, because I used to think I wanted help from someone who would care about me, but I learned the hard way that no one does, and we have to take care of ourselves and brave the cold, and just put out as much positive energy as we can, even when we do not recieve any back

 

Wow, i found that kind of inspiring.

 

See what I mean buddy? I am so gald that I could even help 1 person, (I am assuming that you may be a little off yourself? Sorry if I am wrong) and thatss all I mean. I just try to be nice and honest, and help people as much as I can, even if Iget nothing in return. But your acknowledgement and posting a response just proved to me that there really was a reason to type my thoughts and share them with people. Thank you, you have inspired me by letting me know that people do listen

 

So i guess we're even now?

 

Yep, a definte positive balancing of our seperate cosmos right there bro

 

That's kind of mean. He can't help his depression any better than you could help having a broken arm. You can lessen the symptoms and pain the broken arms causes you but the broken arm is still there.
I've never had depression, but I have extreme anxiety and I manage it, but it's still there and I know it's not my fault that I have it. But it is my fault if I don't manage it. You should at it the same way with your friend. Maybe bring him some magazines to read, do something nice for him. That will help his depression more than you sitting here and bitching about it.

 

I literally had to get divorced because my wife was so depressed it was killing me...not depressed over any event, in the clinical sense.

She told me she was diagnised as such before we got married, but being ignorant I thought "well i am going to get her in a good situation and get her out of this," but nothing helped.

She would be on the couch all day popping all sorts of pills, and would never be able to make any sort of plan because she would back out at the last minute. It caused her to be short and bitchy to me constantly, to be completely self absorbed to the point that I did not know if she still even cared about me, and it destroyed our sex life.

If I would have responded to this thread 5 years ago, I would have said something like "well they need to snap out of it," now I know that it really is a disease, and some people will never be able to escape it.

Its sad, i still care for her, but I could not go on like that as my own life was passing....she has lost so much due to her condition, many friends over the years, not just me

 

I find people who have never been depressed in their life a tad dull in most cases.

I myself am maniac depressive... but I have learned not to project it upon the world. Self-pity is a very destructive thing... depressed people need to learn to avoid it.

 

It's hard to understand anyone.

But if your friend was feeling down enough to risk his own life, the best thing to do is to let him know he has friends. Look after your boy Octopus.

 

(((((hugs)))))) Does she have a good psychiatrist? I know my anxiety ruined my engagement. I was so sensitive and blew everything he said way out of proportion and twisted his words. I accused him of being abusive. When I was in a true abusive relationship and realized what horrid things I accussed him of and what a good guy he was compared to the psycho I was with I called and apologized. He said he loved me and wanted me back but felt like he always had to 'treat me like a mental patient'. We weren't a good match, he had his own problems. But I do feel bad that he never got to see who I was as an independent and confident woman as oppossed to an over-reactive valium addict.

 

I depress Haitians.

Sorry, I'm in a silly mood tonight.

 

See, that made me want to kill myself.

 

I think that if you haven't experienced real depression you shouldn't judge others.
I don't mean something from a sad event, I mean that strange "clinical" depression that's simply your brain fucking itself up and over. It's not like we choose to be this way, it's not like we enjoy being depressed and obsessing over suicide some days. But it's how we've been wired and we do our damndest to manage it... but some days it doesn't work out so well.

 

i think its ok to go through periods of confusion or depression in ur life if something good comes out of it. BUT ppl who never use it to their benefit and have no real reason for it except to self-hate, or whinge or feel less than they are do get really annoying..it brings u down cos you have to be there for them, but usually the effort is wasted and that causes frusteration and resentment..it's better to steer clear of a self-pitying person - they are like drwoners - cling to you and bring u down with them in their panic

 

Ever have a friend you got down and depressed with all the time?
I have a buddy in Seattle, other folks would just leave the room shakin' their heads while he consumed bourbon, & I had my jagermeister..
The mood was always just that black..Was actually kinda spooky, the way we enjoyed the utter cold cynicism together.
We both decided it wasn't healthy, & cut that shit out.