Hello, My name is Devin...I came to this fourm to ask the advise of some people that may give me some advise on a situation that is plagueing me currently...My situation is this- I have been seeing this girl for almoast 2 months, we've been friends for 3 years. She is really in love with me, and i was in love with her..for awhile. I want to end it with her but don't know how to break it to her. My reason for this is-We seem to be heading in VERY different directions, i enjoy helping people, she just makes fun of them, i am hippie, she is very emo, i'm very spiritual, she is athiest, i have my life planned out, her life plans are completely un-realistic. She thinks i'm going to marry her! Please, I need advise on how i should let her know that i'm going to break up with her..but i still want to be her friend....Help,friends
Show her your post here - you are speaking from the heart, and she needs to know how you feel about her. And 17 is way too young to consider marriage - you have college or something like that ahead of you before you think of settling down.
I'm planning on going to massage school.....I don't think that i should let her read this post, i said that she puts people down (true but not too kind)
Maybe I'm taking the wrong approach to this....Do you think that i should try to just accept our differences and work things out with her?
you two are so young, you don't need to settle for someone who won't make you happy. Believe me, I've been with very critical/pessimistic people before and it's no fun Honesty is best. Dragging it out will only hurt the two of you. Just tell her that the relationship isn't working out for you and that you want to end it.
You have been friends for several years, but dating seriously only two months. Breaking up is not that big a deal at this point, except it is probsbly the first time you have had to do it, It is never easy. If you don't want to show her the post, then use the points you made there as an outline for the reasons you will tell her why you want to break up. If she is sarcastic to you, ignore her.
Yeah, honesty's always the best policy. Just tell her how you've been feeling and what your thoughts are like you wrote here. Don't expect her to switch to just friends instantly, perhaps leave her alone before trying to be friends, and see if she comes to you for friendship. There's no point for settling for someone if you are no longer in love with her. If you were, I would suggest trying to work things out with ehr and explaining how her criticism made you feel, but as you are no longer in love, I say end it.
NO. You are too young to have to work that hard at a relationship. You're going in two different directions and her taste in music is flat embarrassing.
First, I suggest NOT showing her this post -- be honest and tell her the things you've said here, but showing her the post would be really bad etiquette. That would be like going to her and saying "yeah, see, I've complained to all these people about you, and they agree I should kick yo' ass to the curb!" I would be really upset, hurt, embarrassed if a guy showed me that he had been talking to a bunch of complete strangers about our relationship when he wasn't talking to me about these concerns. Talk to her, explain that you feel like you and she are going down different paths, and that you're still young and hope to grow and change and experiment a lot in college, and you don't want to hurt her. Also, explain to her that you still care about her as a friend and want to maintain that friendship, but will leave it entirely up to her to call you until things get back to normal because you don't want to make her uncomfortable. She may be ready to be just friends right away, she may need time, but you should leave that up to her.... But, make sure she knows that's what you're doing and that you haven't completely lost all interest in her friendship.
the only thing that seems to be right in such a situation is just to tell her everything frankly!! do not leave her without any explanations....yeah just tell her your true feelings and reasons...she is likely to understand you
there's no point trying to work things out if its no good, especially if you 2 are so different from each other. that will only ruin your friendship more.
