Big girls (again)

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you are such a smartypants <3

 

i try

 

Asperger's syndrome, as I understand it, is a minor form of autism which involves people who are basically unconcerned about other people and live in their own world, and often are geniuses in one area, such as math.

Chris sees overly concerned about what others think of him (not uncommon for a 17 year old), which does not seem like Asperger's.

 

so any luck this weekend Chris?

hahaha, joke, I know the answer to that one

 

Ok I'm not using the actual "quote" tool but Chris here's a couple of your comments, I collected from the first couple pages of this thread in an effort to paint a picture.

"I tried to look mean, hard and angry"

"Agree with Dancer Annie - Kiss her arse why don't you!!!"

"Maybe I should have a go at her next time just to make her know the score?"

"People forget that i'm not one to be messed with, and what's it going to take - Hitting people?"

"Well i'd be grateful if I DIDN'T get treated badly, and so will everyone else - I expect to be treated well, and i'd do the same back."

As far as your personal issues, I have no idea where to begin or what to say to you to help you learn to love yourself. But as far as the way you interact with other people it seems fairly simple. You claim that everyone is mean to you so you're mean back. The simple fact of the matter is that it is the exact opposite. If EVERYONE around you is so mean to you maybe its because you walk around trying to look like such a badass and making rude comments to everyone you come into contact with. MOST people are not mean for no reason. SOMEONE has to start the problem. Now considering that all these problems seem to revolve around you, who do you think that someone might be. When I walk around my college I'm not constantly trying to project some image or thinking about what nasty thing I can say to the next person who so much as looks at me. I'm just walking to my next class, and you know what? people aren't mean to me. You know what else? I smile all the time just for the hell of it. I laugh out loud as I'm walking down the hall alone because I thought of something funny. And I say nothing but nice things to people. Coincidentally other people say nothing but nice things to me (for the record I'm using the word coincidentally ironically there). Nobody here sympathizes with you, because nobody experiences these large groups of people who don't like them, because nobody else here has gone out of their way to piss off everyone around them. Do you think that the entire student body of your school got together in some secret meeting the day before you started classes as to announce "Hey there's this new kid Chris who starts tommorow and just to make his life miserable we're all gonna be mean to him just for the hell of it, come on it'll be fun!" or MAYBE could it be that once you got there and started walking around all "mean, hard, and angry" and shooting people dirty looks and saying mean things to them, maybe THATS when people started to dislike you. There is no doubt in my mind that you have the ability to be a good person, but quite frankly you are an asshole. And until you make up your mind that that's not who you wanna be anymore, you will continue to be an asshole. I understand that you are insecure, that you have issues people. I myself can sometimes be horribly introverted and antisocial, and I often have a hard time approaching the opposite sex. I understand what it's like to feel like an outcast sometimes. But, these are my problems, not everyone elses. I will solve these problems by changing myself, not by demanding that everyone else change. You are who you believe yourself to be, if you hate yourself so much, CHANGE! What's stopping you? There are no tricks to it, no secrets, no magic. All it takes is some pure simple initiative. When it comes down to it some peoples opinions matter in this world and some don't. You talk about how your stuck with your reputation and you can't change, well the people who's opinions matter have already seen that you are in pain and will respect you for trying to better yourself. The people who will call you gay for being nice, their opinions don't. Own up man, just because somethings hard to do doesn't mean it can be done. Quit whining and just do it.

 

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We see it all the time - a guy with a psychological problem feels picked on in school, goes home, gets a gun and a tragedy results. Don't be one of those Columbine guys, Chris. Get some help - your problem is controllable or curable by medication.

 

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not true. A lot of people with asperger's see social norms as a right or wrong. It makes them mad when social norms they are taught bend. It's just like how a child with asperger's gets very mad if somone does not follow the rules of a board game. A young adult with asperger's gets equaly as mad when somone breaks social rules. It's not about being concerned about others it's being upset that something is wrong or falls into that grey area that is hard for a lot of people with asperger's to comprehend.

 

Nay, Aspies for the most part are entirely unconcerned with social norms, said disregard for logically foolish interpersonal social expectations is either the crux of the manifestation of the so-called syndrome or part of it's development. But an aspies own internal logic driven codes of conduct are not something to be trifled with.

Aspies generally have trouble interpreting nonverbal social cues and other such ancillary nuances of social interaction that are seemingly subconsciously ingrained in normies. Though it is possible for one to teach oneself these things as one would learn for example algebra. They generally have a radically different way of perceiving the world compared with neurotypicals; having tendency towards the extremely pedantic in language and logic.

I don't think Chris here fits that description, obviously he's got some issues, but it seems to me he's just desperately seeking attention, whatever the underlying reason for that may be.

IMHO his posts are full mostly of bullshit.
Some good professional counseling will do him far more good than spouting off pseudo-stream-of-consciousness nonsense in an internet forum.

Whatever, carry on.

 

I agree with EEso - Chris does not show symptoms of Aspergers.

 

That was my first instinct as well.

 

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Chris - are you very good at math?

 

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Dude you have some serious anger shit going on. You see the problem with always trying to please everyone else is that you never try to please yourself and when it comes down to it thats all you have. You really need to grow up, that girl may have been thinking about something and just scanned over you without even thinking about it and now you have turned this glance into a 158 post thread. Speaking as a girl whos had a boyfriend like you I'd never date you, because he did care about what everyone else thought and he did hit me. So yes you need to get control of your anger, you behave like a child.

 

Then why does study after study correlate a bad temper, mood swings and problems with gender idenity with Aspies who self-report poor social skills? Why are psychologists even asking for self-reports on social-skills if people with aspergers have no grasp of the concept?

A number of significant correlations were obtained among the variables of
interest. More specifically, it was found that more severe symptomatology
was associated with higher levels of negative mood. Also, lower levels of
social skills were associated with higher levels of negative mood and
depression. Finally, a higher level of awareness of disability was related to
a higher level of negative mood in these children. Gender differences in
parental vs. self-reports of depression were also found. Overall, parents
rated their children as being at an almost borderline level

 

i know how you feel about what others think of you, i feel the same way, just so you know that you are not alone.

 

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