Alrighty. I am totally new to these forums, although I've been roaming around hippyland for a few months. Anyway... I've got two questions for ya: 1) What do you do to make money? 2) I just found out I'm knocked up. What happened to your life after you found this out? How did it change?
1) I got a decent severant's package when I got laid off and I am a freelance writer and trainer/conference speaker. 2) I'm going to be honest. I got an abortion when i got knocked up. I think I did the right thing FOR ME. I feel guilty at times but not as guilty as I would feel bringing a child into this world when I had no intention of staying with either of the fathers. With the first guy I told him the truth afterwards and wish I didn't. The second guy has no idea and I thank god I went through with it and never told him. I'm not saying that you should do this I am just telling you my story. You need to do what's right for you. Hugs
Congrats me too! I'm just wondering the same things but the unknown is soooo exciting too! Your life will change for the better if its what you want, you will have to make changes in your life but I think those sacrifices are worth it! Good Luck, Sorry I couldt really help more! x
haha It's so not! I write mostly manuals for non-profits, brouchures and training guides. I've only gotten one fun article picked up since I got laid off. But it was about chocolate and wine pairing...which was fun to research
Well, welcome and congratulations! I don't work outside of the home. I'm a full time mother/housewife and my husband brings in the income, so... When I found out that I was pregnant with our oldest, I was 20 years old and engaged at the time. We ended up getting married sooner than anticipated and I had our oldest son at the age of 21. I had our twins at the age of 24, almost 25. (My husband is 4 years older than I am.) Anyway, no doubt that your life is going to change, for me, it was for the better. I won't lie, the early months are tough, heck, many would say that the first year is killer. But hey, it's all worth it, no doubt, at least, for myself it was!
I make money by doing before-school child-care at the local community center. I also watch a 3 year old in my home for $30 a day (service to a friend). It is very important to my husband and I that our daughter not be left alone with strangers, which would cost more anyway! When I found out I was pregnant, it was 4am on a friday. I got up to see my then-boyfriend off to work and take a pregnancy test. Those two little lines sent me into hysterics and I was in disbelief for the whole day. I was 19 at the time, my boyfriend 31. When my boyfriend came home that day, we discussed it. And though we'd only been together for 3 months, and half of that, we'd been unemployed. And it didn't seem like the ideal situation, we knew we'd be okay. Now, we're married and our daughter is 8 months old. It's difficult, yes, and sometimes I long to sleep in until noon, or take a shower without someone calling for me, but motherhood has given every aspect of my life so much more meaning. I have the best reason in the world to make myself more healthy, more educated, more accepting, more cautious, more helpful. She just makes life amazing, even when she's fussy and overly tired. Only you know the right choice for you. But in my situation, I'd rather live in a tent the rest of my life than leave my little girl with someone else. And there are plenty of legitimate ways to make ends meet while going to school or raising your baby. PM me, if you need a supportive shoulder or advice. I was once where you are now.
1) What do you do to make money? I have a responsible, working partner, who was well aware that the financial weight would be on him when we had children. I, quite honestly, wouldn't have a partner who didn't feel this way. He stepped up the plate when things were needed. Like Hippyfreek, it hasnt always been easy, but we do what we feel works best for our family.That's just me, though. (sometimes things happen which are out of our control) I am also a Board Certified Lactation Consultant, and that brings in some money, but I spend a good deal of time home with my four children, while my partner takes care of the vast majority of our financial responsibilties. (We have four children, two in college. It ain't easy.) 2) I just found out I'm knocked up. What happened to your life after you found this out? How did it change? I had to change my plans to go to Medical School. My partner and I got married, so that my pregnancy would be covered on his insurance plan, and we needed it, as I ran into many health problems, I had to stop working, due to a very high risk pregnancy, and out of pocket expenses for this pregnancy alone, with no insurance would have cost us the loss of our house, and most likely bankruptcy. In 1985 and 1986, the pregnancy and delivery cost between $15,000 and $20,000. It would have broke us, without insurance. Luckily, I got on his plan and it cost us very little. How is your partner situation? Is he willing and able to do his job to support the family if you two decide to continue the pregnancy? Or would a termination be in your best interests? (I hate to say Congrats if I don't know if someone wants to be pregnant, as that can be difficult.) I hope things are OK with you.
