Getting over the 'straight friend' crush.

The story goes I met a friend at work. At first I was not attracted to him at all. The more we started talking, the more I found him attractive. We started hanging out outside of work. At first I thought possibly he was gay too just from some of the conversation we had. That was until he mentioned the dreaded gee word, you know, girlfriend. He doesn't have one now, but has in the past. So all my hopes were lost.

Now the problem is I can't stop thinking about him. I know the obvious way is to stop seeing him, but I don't want to. We work together for one. And two, he's one of the few friends I have made since I moved.

Do you think he has any idea about my liking for him? And how do I go about losing these feelings I have for him?

 

I suppose he COULD be bi-sexual.

 

there's not much you can do about it.

time is the only thing that will make it go away.

 

Yeah, theres not too much you can do. I fell for a good friend of mine once- it was annoying for a while,but I guess I just forgot about it and moved on...I realized:
"Okay Dylan. hes NOT gay. he does NOT like penises- GET OVER IT!"
you cant change it. getting too sad over it wont help. but I do understand youre probably a bit let down, I knwo the feeling, dont worry.
I mean, it sounds like theres maybe a chance he could be into guys. just cuz he has had girlfriends doesnt mean hes striaght.

Ive had a bunch of girlfriends up until I was 16, then I realized I was gay.
so you never know.
but the best idea would be to either just talk about it, or if youre too worried or think its a bad idea, then just forget about it.

cheers and love,
dylan

 

Yeah, that really sucks, I'm actually going through the same thing right now. The guy that I was almost positive was gay just got in a relationship with a girl we both know. Even though I thought he was dropping hints left and right that he was interested in me, I guess I was reading too much into them. I know it's going to be hard to get over, only time will help.

Good luck!