so, I'm in a pickle of a dilly.....

Ah, I know I'm making more of this than what needs be, but it still bothers me a little.

Here's the background to the story: My husband's family is good friends with this other family, whom over the last few years went from spending LOTS of time together to less and less, and now it's the occasional phone call and christmas card. Because they've such minimal contact with each other, I've never met them, but I've heard of them and they of me. (I've known my husband's family now for over 7 years.)

So, anyway, the one person in that family who's about my husband's age is getting married, and I got an invite to the bridal shower in ten days. I really don't feel comfortable going because I don't know anyone there, I'm not even sure if my mother in law's going.

Should I go? How bad would it be if I didn't? My husband's not going, but then again it's a bridal shower and it's *girls only*.... so anyway... I'm just being so weird about it. What do you think?

 

It's a bit strange they invited you even if you've never met them.. I'd probably go if I were you but just coz I've never been to a bridal shower before. :tongue: But I can understand why you don't wanna go, and it's not like you have any obligation to go either especially coz you don't even know them.

 

you wont know anyone? i dunno, thats a toughie. i'd probably go, though, because i like things like that. they will probably have alcohol and good food

 

I wound up goign to a bridal shower for a bride I never met .. and well I wound up holding her over the balcony of a hotel....

it was my brothers fiance... they're not together anymore....

but I dont regret going I had a lot of fun... and if I wouldnt have threatened here they wouldnt have gotten an anullment and he'd still be married to her.. not a happy thought...

but you could go you never know it could be fun.. unless their one of those people who do the snuggle party things and they just wanna do crazy stuff.. that could be awkward... haha just kidding...

but if there's one thing Ive learned its trust your gut.... does your gut say not to go?

 

Well I got an invite to one of my husband's cousin's fiance's bridal showers. And you know what? I met the cousin ONCE and the fiance NEVER. I thought it was incredibly tacky. Needless to say, I didn't go.

 

I wouldn't go. I'm not the most social person in the world though.

 

Oh just go, it'll be fun. If not, run off after an hour and say you have work or previous plans you couldn't change or something.

Typically bridal showers don't get a tonne of people so the more that show up, the better.

If it's tacky, well, y'know what, they're extending and invitation to you. They're TRYING to get to know you better. How is it not tacky to say "no I don't want to get to know you at all" in return? (I'm slightly biased since my cousins' bridal shower this summer was fairly low key since not a lot of people showed up)

 

The reason I think it's tacky is because you're expected to go out and spend money on a gift for someone you don't even know, it's like "hi, I don't know you or anything but come to my shower and bring me a gift, here's where I'm registered at!"

And with my situation, my husband rarely ever saw his cousin, maybe once or twice in the last 10 years, and they were never really close! I don't know, it just didn't seem appropriate to me. But, sometimes I can be really old fashioned...

 

Ok party, never turn down a party, never turn down a chance to buy a "you owe me gift". You go to the party get a free meal maybe, wedge a you owe me gift in there for you baby shower or something in the future, and hells bells she may be one cool chicky and this could spawn a relations ship that reunites your husbands friends with his family.

OK OK I'm an optimist

 

I was thinking a lot of that too.... I had a bridal shower with a low turn out, so I can empathize... I don't want to not show up and seem like a bitch for not going without a good enough excuse. And it's always better late than never to start to get to know someone, right?

Plus, I was talking with my husband last night.... the fact that I don't know them all that well gives me a better excuse to buy an embarassing gift rather than something off the registry. A nice sex-shop 'honeymoon' basket care package is always fun....