Don't know if i went crazy or am using so much zetler?!! I want things no body wants or understand. I wanna work in the hospital i want and it should be the wayy i want. I spend too much money even if i don't have enough. i go out every night smoking and going out of my friends and i leave my wife and kids sleeping and i come back when they r still sleeping. Surf the net for an hour or two then sleep to wake up in the morning to go to work then gym, home to eat and sit with my kids and wife, then they sleep and i start my journey again. Am not happy nor is my wife. She is not happy cos i smoke. And am not happy not having sexxxxx.Sex is very important to me. I know there r few changes in me especially sexually after i had a car accident 2 years ago, but this is not the problem am sure. Its me smoking and me not having sex. Am i wrong here, somebody pls help!!!!!!
sounds like you are in a tangle of strings . probably you have untangled a careless wad of string before . you know what to do .
Sounds to me like you are just doing too much. Figure out your top priorities and focus your attention there. You should see improvement in your relationships.
If you and her cannot find a compromise as far as your lifestyle, you have to break up. It's painful but simple. There is no other way... Can you sacrifice your going out? Can she tolerate your going out? Someone is going to have to yield or you're living a farce. My experience is with alcoholism, and I know I went out more often once my previous relationship went south. Not solely for that reason, but I was going out everyday simply to avoid being home. I don't know if the same is the case with you. It may be that relationship problems lead to your lifestyle, rather than your lifestyle leading to relationship problems. If that's the case, what could those problems be?
Man, if I was your wife I wouldn't be happy either. Things should be the way you want them, but it doesn't sound like you're willing to work towards it. You overspend, of course that's going ot be trying on a marriage (I heard somewhere that most marriages fail due to financial issues, or other problems stemming from financial issues). You go out every night and never invite your wife along? I wonder if she might think that you're having an affair? Like another clever poster said, you need to re-evaluate your priorities. Is your marriage important enough for you to compromise on some things, like only going out a couple times a week, budgeting, being appreciative of your wife, etc. Give her a reason to want to have sex with you, don't just expect it. Romance and respect is what it's all about.
I assume he's having sexual relations with others. But that is not the main problem. The main problem is what killed their relationship, and it's usually a dynamic, a vicious co-dependent cycle --- not the exclusive fault of the party who's "acting up."
Thax very much Ihhurria!! I hink i have the strengh now to change the way am living and c what they want and be a loving husband and father, and try to budget a little more. X
