I need some advice about something personal

Well it's about circumsicion and I'll try and keep this as short as possible so people will read it.

About 3 years ago I had a circumscion and I have some sweeling that never went away that goes around the stitching area just below the head of the penis. You know... where they made the cut. It's noticeable for sure but it's not super bad. Especially during an erection. I talked to another urologist to get a second opinion and he said that he wouldn't suggest trying to fix it because there is a risk of making it worse. He said to that it wasn't that bad and him being a urologist he's seen much worse.


BUT, it bothers me. I mean i am 25 and I have my whole life ahead of me. Having a family is a dream. I mean i don't think I can take that risk of trying to get it fixed so I need to face my fears of dealing with the opposite sex.

I am afraid of how to approach it with girls. I know everything appears worse to the individual than other people but it still bothers me.

My question is do you think I should go ahead with sexual activity and not mention anything and just go with the flow and mention something quick once they see it, or not? Or do I tell them before? Do I tell them basically what i just said here and act confident? I think confidence would be key. I mean what do I do? I hope some ladies read this. I would like to hear what they have to say as well considering. All input is welcome.

 

Nas - Does the swelling hurt or is there scar tissue? If not, you probably got a loose cut when you were circumcised, , like I did, so that the remaining foreskin sits behind the glans when your penis is soft - this is normal.

You say it is not noticable when you are erect, so what is the problem? Google "Erection photos" for a site showing soft and erect penises, and you will see many penises which look just like yours. Don't worry about it.

 

No no it's not a loose cut, it's actual swelling. The urologist said it could have been caused from 2 reasons:

1) Either something went wrong in my lymph nodes causing inadequate drainage of fluid

or

2) there could be some tight skin that was left that could be causing constriction around where the surgery is. But the urologist cannot see any band that can be causing this.

The urologist has only seen 2 other cases such as mine so it's not normal. It is noticeable during erection but not as much compared to when flacide. My family doctor said that it's tissue and it cannot be drained. and thankfully no it doesn't hurt and I'm not sure what you mean by scar tissue?

But again, it's not reallly swollen but it is noticeable so I am self conscious about it. The swelling is probably 4mm thick and probably like 7mm in length on the bottom of the shaft by the cut. and it's like 1.5mm by 1.5mm on the top of the shaft by the cut (so much smaller). It's like a band of tissue that goes around the shaft by the cut. If you can picture that. During erection it just stretches out and it doesn't look THAT bad but it's still noticeable.

So I just don't know how to approach women about it

 

Many guys who have been cut have darker bands around the shaft at the place of incision, which is the point between the remainder of the foreskin and the shaft skin. Don't worry about it - most women could not care less.

 

it's hard for me to picture exactly what you mean but i really doubt anyone would notice it... everyone looks differfent anyway... i just wouldnt say anything, and if a woman asks then just confidently mention what you said in the first post. shouldnt be a big deal at all.

 

hmmmmmm well like I said it isss noticeable but it's I am probably making out to be a lot worse than it is. It's just harder for me to deal with because it's a part of me you know what i mean.

So you think mentioning it before is a bad idea eh and just I shouldn't mention anything unless she says something? God that will hard lol. Maybe i need to get a 6 pack and that way i'll have more confidence

 

If you mean six pack abs, that is one thing. If you mean a six pack of beer, that can dull your senses.

Women don't have an image of the "perfect penis", and are used to different looks on the guys they have been with. Who knows, the bulge may contribute to her enjoyment of yours. Some guys have severe bends to the left or right or downwards when erect, and they don't have problems with it.

Don't bring it up unless she asks, and she probably won't even notice it.

 

:agree:

 

hehehe i meant a 6 pack of abs

Again though, i don't think it's something you CAN'T notice but I will definately take your advice(s) seriously. I appreciate it very much.


Question though: How come you 2 think it wouldn't be a good idea to mention something prior to getting close?

 

If it looked like it was a disease, I would mention it, otherwise let her bring it up. Look at it this way - if you have a scar on your abdomen (appendix, etc.) would you mention it the first time you got naked with her? Probably not. You would wait until she asked about it. Same thing about this. There is an easy explanation, if she really cares. You are overly sensitive about it.

 

hmmm yeah i guess you are right. Maybe i won't mention it prior. It doesn't look like a disease it's just some extra tissue around the circumference of the shaft where the cut was made with the dimensions I mentioned above.

I guess I'll just have to see with how I am going to approach it. When erect the tissue stretches out so on the top of the penis you can't notice but under the penis you can still sort of tell. Anyway, I feel stupid talking about this. I just wish I had a normal "thing" lol. Oh well, nothing i can do about it.

Thanks for the input guys

 

Nas - guys like me with a "loose cut" circumcision have a lot of extra (fore)skin around the shaft behind the head when our penises are soft - it stretches out almost completely when erect, but I can still pull some of the loose (fore)skin partly over the head. The only difference with yours is that my loose skin is soft, and apparently yours is harder (scar?) tissue. Am I right?

Doesn't bother me or my girlfriend at all. In fact, she loves to play with the loose skin.

 

yes it's tougher skin, scar tissue.

 

That's not that weird. So long as it's not bumps or anything else that looks like a disease, who gives a fuck.

Don't tell the broad either. You might freak her out for no reason.

 

it's looks like healthy tissue but it's swelling around the circumference of the penis where the cut was made. There is a little more swelling on the bottom side of the penis by the stitching as oppose to the top.

 

just tell her that its from your circumcision. she probably wont even think twice about it.

my ex-husband had a lopsided cut so he had much more skin on one side than the other but i think i only actually noticed it the first time i saw it and then it didnt even regester after that.

Dont worry!

 

Thanks guys I really appreciate it.