sick of living here

Every since i could remember my grandpa had an anger problem. iv lived with him for about 10 years now and couldnt be more happy he took me off the streets and into a good home. But i swear he gets mad at the most little things imaginable. and i would understand if i did something wrong then its only right to be yelled at and punished. but his fuckin dip shit friend who is like...his daughters ex husband and his best friend. He hates me, he would always find ways to get me in trouble. everytime my grandpa visits him he comes back screaming at me for no reason about shit i didnt even do. he would always try to hit me. hes 200 pounds, can lift over 270lbs and is an ex military guy. my brother has told me stories about his bar fighting days. hes 76 now but im sure he could beat my ass in a heartbeat. anyway if i left clothes on the floor he would yell and scream and threaten to kick me out for trying to make his perfect house a "pig-stie". Today he came home from his friends house and again the first thing he does is walk into my room to try and find ANYTHING misplaced so he could yell at me. what did he find? a slightly broken blind shade that looks like it was bend down a little too far. what does he do? "Do you love making this house as filthy as possible? You never have any respect in my house but noo you dont care you just do what ever the fuck you want. I told you could stay here if you dont fuck around and get in trouble but what do you do? you break everything you see! I could kick the shit out of you right now!".

then he goes on about my room smelling like marijuana and that im addicted and im just a little druggie blah blah blah. but keep in mind this sort of stuff happens every damn day. so this isnt even half of it.

i do nothing to harm him. i never yell at him or talk back. hell i barley want talk to him anymore in fear that i might just get grounded and yelled at. this is getting too rediculous for me. i dont deserve this do I? i cursed my mom for dieing and leaving me with this angry old man.

sorry for whining about stupid shit like this i just needed to tell someone what living with this guy is like. he just took down all my bob marley posters and emtey bottles on my top shelf that have been there for years. yet 2 of my bongs were right next to my bed on the other side and he didnt even see them.

I just cant understand why he TRIES to find things to punish me for i mean. im making a B average after getting straight Fs. does he compliment me? no. he doesnt compliment me on anything good i do. just the negative. i swear...i really need to smoke this guy out. or give him anger management lessons.

 

Sounds annoying as fuck, at leat he doesn't care that you toke.

 

no he cares he just didnt see it. hes trying to make me read an article about the football player that ruined his career for testing positive for marijuana and is now in rehab. i told him once i get a muilti million dollar job that drug tests me i would be more than happy to stop. but if i do read the article ill have him read about the million articles i can find about the TRUTH of the herb.

bah...your right it is annoying as fuck. and im not trying to sound like a whinny teenager because i know there are worse 'parents' then this.

 

yeah man, its all good, Im in the same sorta boat, with annoying parents..maybe not as harsh. It def sucks, and I think Im going to move out in the summer.

 

yea im turning 17 in a couple months. one more fuckin year

 

unfortunately, you wont be able to convince him otherwise. he is an old man, if he wants to be a dick, he will be a dick. the realy question is what does your grandma say? or is she no longer around?

if it is just you and him then i think you will just have to set your sights on moving out when you can

 

my real grandma doesnt live with us they got divorced when there daughters turned 18 way back in the 70's. i dont blame her. she told me he would scream at her for puttin the toilet paper on upside down so it rolls over and not under hahaha

but he got re-married twice and is now married to my 55 year old, gold digging, step grandma. and shes just as bad. she actually yelled at me and my friends for eating abunch of food...of course we had the munchies.

 

That's wacked out dude, you have no other alternatives for residence?

 

i have 2 choices: foster home, or my broke brother. and both suck

if i can stand it for 10 years i think i can put out ONE more year...gah i still need a job lol

 

It sucks that you are in that situation man, noone deserves that kind of treatment if they havent done anything to bring i on themselves. My only suggestion is either to tough it out, or irritate him enough that he hits you then you kill him and say it was in self defense...

 

is boarding at your high school an option?

 

with all that money he has in his bank account

 

^ dude why would u wana kill someone ?

40oz, sucks man, when i lived with my dad, the time he cheated on my mum he would always shout as us for no reasons, negative vibed ppl get their kicks from it.

if hes an army person, then its just the way he got treated there, army aint no place for a clever person, just tanks that work with guns/brains.
ye, basicly start preparing for the move, do well in school like ur doing, try thinking about employment etc to get cash and all that, damn it sucks man.

 

Your granfather is insecure.
He sees your drug use and other things as a means of rebellion. Furthermore you are about to leave (a year to him is entirely different than a year to you), like everyone else does.
He's using his anger as a means of control. He can get you to act or at least listen to him through it. It's his only way of really influenceing the world around him.
Of course he can't understand why this drives people away, most people are oblivous to the dumb shit that they do...
soo... try showing him some love, let him know that you'll be there for him, maybe that'll make him fell more secure so he lets the fuck up.
(but then again what do i know?)

 

dont worry about it just ride it out bad times always pass...specialy with some pot lol

 

I would be away from him as possible. Stay after school, "study", get a job, work out somewhere, whatever just find excuses to Not be there

 

I live with my grandparents, and it's always like this.
I think its an old people thing.
But ya my grandpa has tried to hit me a few times (punches to the face), and I tower above him, and I'm much stronger than him, but just can't hit him back, but I laugh cause I'm like watch out there grandpa don't want to break your hand on my jaw.
But ya my grandparents have anger flips, they go from all nice and happy to super angry, for reasons like, oh there was water in the shower! You can't leave water in the shower, it will rot the blinds (plastic blinds, and it will also cause the chrome to rust)

Anyway don't let it get to you, thats just how they are.

 

damn, sucks dude.

 

I have terrible parents, my dad used to try to rape me and my mom didn't give a shit.
But my brother threatened my dad saying that if he ever touched me he would slit his throat while he was sleeping I love my brother

 

Oh my..

I'm glad I'm not in a situation like a lot of people I hear about on here. I guess the only thing you can do is do well in your life and get through it. The future is always brighter. Good luck to everyone in hard times...