Emotional feelings after masturbation...

Okay, this may make me seem like an asshole, but anyway...

Each time I masturbate and ejaculate I feel an overwhelming rejection towards girls in general. I fantasize about all these girls and when I'm done I almost feel repulsed with myself. I blank all thoughts out of my head of the recent erotic fantasies.

Why do I feel this way? Could it be because I havn't had ANYTHING on my cock apart from my hand in over a year?

Seriously...

 

So fantasize about men.

Chicks are hoes anywho.

 

L.A.Matthews, I know how you feel. That's exactly the kind of thinking that led to my masturbation strike. I don't exactly know what to do now, but I sort of made this resolution to not masturbate until I get some real action... At least, I think I can hold out that long. It's definitely a challenge... It's day 23 now.

 

After any sexual encounter, hand, mouth, vagina, etc leading to orgasm and ejaculation guys are 'done!' in thought, word, and the deed itself. Done with good feeling, done with desires, and done with themselves. Some lads recover so quickly (gotta admire a libido such as that!) that they don't even remember the feeling of 'done.' Others sorta roll over and sleep or go back to the computer or to a movie. That moment is a dangerous one for (I gotta write carefully - human feelings here) guys with less than stellar self-esteem, guys with strong but unwanted gender tendencies, or guys raised with guilt complexes. Those things can sneak in and do serious damage to the ego, et alii. I know FunnyGuy thinks I'm full of shit, so I'll adress my remarks to L. A. Give serious consideration to those three factors. After all, maturbatory fantasies are the stuff of dreams and ejaculation is a 'wake-up.' Being back in reality is a sad moment for people who have learned to tell themselves they're not right up with the rest of the world, worrying about their 'male/female-ness,' or have real or imagined guilt trips to deal with. Think about it. You can erase those ROM, but it takes lottsa self-honesty. A little help at that point goes a long way. Talk with someone you trust!
I have been told that Welch mums are good at using guilt to raise their young, like my German grandma: "God'l get you for that!" Oh, what a load of crap, but for many formative years, I believed and feared. Then I found my 'delete' key and wanked away with delight, to this day! G'luck mate.

 

Ok ... this is mostly ... sort of related ...

I have a theorey:

I know I'm making a couple of HUGE generalizations here, but see if you follow my logic.

I think that how a man feels after (maybe not directly after, but a minute or two after) orgasm is VERY similar to how a woman feels before becoming aroused.

My point here is that the male's desire and drive for orgasm is almost strictly "testosterone-driven," while (again VERY generally) a woman's "drive" is more centered around the relationship and other ancillary emotions. Once the male's drive has been "satisfied" by orgasm, only then do the other ancillary emotions come into play for him.

I have just caught myself many-a-time while basking in post-orgasmic bliss thinking, "yea ... I could do it again in a few minutes ... or not ... whatever ... i don't care" and then realized that this is my wife's whole attitude toward sex in-general. She doesn't NEED the orgasm; she needs the emotions (emotions which I seem to associate with poist-orgasmic/postcoital sensation). She just needs to feel close and "cuddly;" I need to feel close and inside her pumping away until I cum.

Now that being said, obviously everyone's mileage is going to vary in this equation.

Does this make sense?

 

When I was a teenager, I felt guilty about masturbating - that is was somehow "wrong". But as I matured,I saw it as a natural bodily function to relieve stress and to get rid of the sperm which my body continually produces, and which, unless I have intercourse, just builds up. I realized that everyone does it, and if they say they don't, they are elther lying or sexually repressed.

 

How about a hooker?

That's what I'd do, anyway.

 

I'd probably guess you've gone 16 years... you had a hooker yet?

 

I always cry afterwards and feel a sense of yearning....

Its probably a similar feeling....maybe we are idealizing the opposite sex and then get let down when they arent what we expect....

You are probably a very sensitive man...is that your pic....cos if so you ooooze sensitivity...

The other reason could be mother/women issues due to childhood stuff...

Hookers arent the answer for any man who has issues because they are selling "love" and not giving it freely...

We need to be loved for ourselves...

Am not sure this forum is the place to heal such things....it seems to be more of a "fun place"??

 

Ooookay...I don't cry after I jack off, nor do I think of my mother.

Actually, I'll correct myself, because I don't even feel "repulsed" by myself, but more or less uninterested in myself or my arousals.

 

dp

 

I didnt infer that YOU cried....I said I did...different thing. Neither did I infer you thought of yer mother...

But you did say you felt a repulsion towards girls...

That is something I would wanna sort out.....especially before you get a woman of your own.

Just trying to help....

 

thats how i feel. i just get over it.

 

i was like that with thinking about guys too. but, then i found out that i was really gay. i love women and i love to think about them haha. you might have a thing for men. If you don't then you might just be maturbating because you're bored and not really in the mood. watch a porn or think about something you find really attractive and see if you still feel the same way.

 

That's more often or not the reason, to be honest.