Premature Ejaculation and Masturbation?

I am a virgin.. and I am worried that i would have premature ejaculation, because i climax very quickly when i masturbate
i masturbate about once a day or two..
and from what i remember i always climaxed fairly early.
is there any way to fix this? and does this correlate to sex performance?

 

It is not clear from your post how old you are. I am a lay sex therapist, and I have helped a number of young men with premature ejaculation problems.

Here are some solutions:

1. Start counting every stroke, so you are concentrating more on the counting than the fact that you are getting close to orgasm;

2. Think of your self as pulling something out, rather than ejaculating something;

3. As you get close to orgasm, gently push down on your testicles from the top, which have nested up close to your penis shaft instead of hanging loosely below it;

4. Try some desensitising cream to retard orgasm;

5. Practice getting close to orgasm through masturbation, but stop short of orgasm, and practice stopping it if you can, using your will power. Do this as many times in a row as you can without cumming, then let it loose.

Many of these techniques (and others) can be used to retard prelim ejac in intercourse as well as masturbation.

Regarding your question about your frequent masturbation and its effect on your later intercourse, there is no question that someone addicted to masturbation may have some difficulty at first adjusting to intercourse, but in time the problem usually goes away. Practicing the above techniques may help you later on, after you learn to control your premature ejaculation.

 

Yeah do all that IF you actually end up having problems but seriously it just sounds like sex anxiety to me.

Most male sex problems are psychological, so the best thing you can do is just relax.

Some men tend to worry about these thing even if they're not about to have sex and i think this can cause problems.

Really you should just focus on what you like about sex instead of focusing on what scares you.

 

Well,I need help.I am 21 years old and not married.I masturbate and often reult in ejaculation.After that I feel tired and minus of all my energy.Is it injurious to my health?Believe me,I never heard from my friends that ejaculation cresults in problems.However,if it is,I will certainly restrick myself from ejaculating any more.

 

there is nothing about masturbation thats is detrimental to your health in any way. Its completely natural and fine. It just takes some time to get comfortable having sex, it will help if you dont take sex so seriously. "Its Just Sex" as they say. You want to feel natural and comfortable when your having sex, and if you are worried about every thing that is going on you will not be focusing on the main thing, which is pleasure and passion/love. Find a girl you really like and feel comfortable with and ask her to be your gf, then have sex whenever she likes and you will be a machine in no time lol

 

mabey its because you want the orgasm more than you want to pleasure your cock?

 

to jacobfredjo:Well,I have one.But,in this part of the world,pre-marriage sex is impossible.However,we talk to each other sensing each other's sexual desire and expectation and make a way through a very good understanding between us two.Indeed,she is a newbie in a medical college and first asked me whether I masturbate or not.Till then I didn't know the word.I hug her deeply and satify myself (often by ejaculating) at nights when I am alone by actually hugging pillows and all that.Please don't laugh.Due to her medical course,she stays away by 120 km.And I can only ontact her over mobiles.So,should I stop ejaculating,or I may continue it if I am able to take it easy in my life?

 

It is natural to feel a little down after you have ejaculated. Your body has worked up to a state of high arousal, and needs a little time to regenerate. In Kubrick's 1964 movie "Dr. Strangelove", Sterling Hayden was complaining about losing some of his "vital bodily fluids", which he noticed immediately after having sex. He thought it was a Communist plot, but it really is a natural part of life.

 

Dude..I thought the same thing about me. Until I first had sex...All You have to do is pace yourself while having sex, and go at your own place.
The one thing i've learned about sex is that you just need to relax and enjoy the moment~Good luck bro, and may peace be with you

 

Today,I unexpectedly met her.She returned from college.We met at my elder sister's place(she is married and helps us to meet).She kissed me in lips atleast thrice and I perfectly enjoyed it moment by moment.I am perfectly OK and going to sit for study now for hours together and I know I will do it.However,after ejaculation I become tired and need rest.From your post my primary question remained unanswered.Shall I restrict myself from ejaculating totally,or,I may do it only when I just cannot go without it?Is it better to ejaculate before bed time?

 

I jerk off so much that I last awile during sex.

 

Kallol - If you are worried about cumming too soon, get rid of a little of the sticky stuff before you meet up with her. That should calm you down.

 

I hope I have understood what you tried to say.I will try to get rid of sticky stuff (ejaculation) before having a matured sexual life (after our marriage) with her.Is it all what you wanted to say?Oh! It's difficult.

 

Kallol - What I was saying is that if you have a problem with premature ejaculation, you can masturbate an hour or two before you have intercourse, and you will have less sperm in your testicles to ejaculate when you have intercourse, and be less likely to ejaculate prematurely. Also, use some of the techniques I posted earlier. Once you establish a marital sexual routine, the problem may go away as you learn each other's sexual preferences.

Re your other questions, there is nothing wrong with masturbating - everyone does it, but most don't admit it. Your testicles produce sperm all the time, and if it is not released in some way every week or so, it creates an edginess in you ("blue balls"). Masturbation is also a good way of relieving stress in your life, as it releases chemicals in your body which make you feel relaxed and sleepy. Do it at night before you go to sleep.

Masturbation also gets you in touch with your sex organs, so you know what causes them to respond and what does not. (Everyone is different) You can practice ways to retard orgasm, as I said in my earlier post, which will help you in your lovemaking when you are married

 

Thank you,Sir.I will do accordin to your suggestion.Just for being sure i will ask you two questions-never mind,I am a boy from mathematics faculty and don't understand few terms...What do you mean by problems of premature ejaculation?My girlfriend asked me whether it causes some problem-say headache/pain in belly etc.I personally do not face any such problem.Do you mean these sorts of problems or, the problems that may be introduced during my marital life?Another thing,what does intercourse exactly mean?Do you mean that after one/two hours of masturbation less sperm will come out and hence,less amount of sperm will be waisted?I say this as she told me once about this.Well,as you tell me,I understood what to do and what not.So, thank you again.

 

Kallol - it was the original poster in this thread who asked about premature ejaculation, not you. Premature ejaculation is when you ejaculate almost immediately after putting your penis in the woman's vagina (that is intercourse). Intercourse (if this is not too basic for you) is done face to face with the man on top (and a pillow under her buttocks), doggy style (man entering the woman from the rear), cowboy (woman on top,man lying on his back), and so on. Check the sex books for other positions, or the Indian sex manual Kama Sutra.

Your body continually produces sperm in your testicles until you are very old, and every time you ejaculate 100 million plus sperm are released. Once you have ejaculated (through masturbation or intercourse), it takes a few minutes for most men to get ready for another erection and ejaculate again. The second time there will be much less sperm in the ejaculate. Many men can get multiple erections and ejaculate multiple times in one lovemaking session.

Are you from India?

 

Let me say to you that after tearding your last post,I read the the earlier posts again.It served a great deal.
Yes,I am from India.How did you understand and why did you ask this?

 

American sexual standards do not apply in India, with its ancient Hindu and Muslim cultures. That being said, Kama Sutra and other tantric sexual practices have been going on in India for centuries, and you may follow the practices set forth there. Arranged marriages are still common in India, and that may be where you are going. The caste system also complicates sexual relationships in your country, and sexual frustration is often high, as the societal confines weigh upon you. A woman in India who is raped can be thrown out of her family and made an outcast through no fault of her own.

Here in the U.S. we have a more relaxed attitude about sex - most of us would rather not marry a virgin woman - we like a woman with some, but not a lot of experience, as long as the past relationships are over. And women prefer men with a good deal of sexual experience, so that they can satisfy their lovers, as long as past relationships are past. And men and women here are marrying later on, or just living together for a while before deciding to marry, or not marrying at all.

It must be hard to have an arranged marriage, with neither partner having any sexual intercourse before marriage. There is a thing of "fitting together" - a man with a huge, thick cock and a woman with a small vagina may not be good partners, just as a man with a very small penis may not be good with a woman with a big vagina. It is expected that an engaged couple in the U.S. will have had intercourse before they marry, to make sure they are sexually compatable.

PM me if you want to discuss more personally. I am a lay sex therapist.

 

I see.Thank you very much for your valuable advice.

 

Thanks