Nobody likes me; everyone hates me.

Hey.

First of all...
I'm glad to see that you didn't leave the discussion, just because people had thoughts that you were jiving in the beginning of your thread. You convinced us all that you really mean this. Think about that as your best skill. You are good to communicate - you are good to express yourself.
Having those skills at your age, you can easily overcome lots of your troubles by asking: "why do you hate me?" - expressed in your own words. You've got more words than your counterparts. Don't forget that language is power.

Second of all:
I especielly noticed this part of your post...

Don't forget to distinguish between who you are and what your surroundings are like. You blame yorself because people always leave you behind, but did it ever crossed your mind that they leave you because their thoughts are not stabile & rooted as yours are? Maybe the don't hate you - you just feel so, because you're more mature, and you've found your roots. They're probably scared of you, because they're still searching (like most teens are), and when they start to know you deeper, they realize that you're their mirror - and they don't like to see their own image, and then they escape from you?
Maybe they're so terrified to meet someone who is stabile, because it remind them that it could actually be right to be stabile - and that make them start reflecting on themselves as rootless individuals?

No matter if I'm right or wrong - and I think I'm right - I can assure you that one day you'll discover that the pain that you're feeling now is a giant skill that will bring you big pleasure.

love and understanding,
-wolf-

 

Hang in there , I promise you that as you get older , what people think of you and if they like you or not will become less important than what YOU think of yourself , and whether you like the person you see when you look in the mirror.

 

Exactly.

 

I like you

 

The fact could be that you're looking too much for friends, thus seeming desperate and weird, and thus being a freak to everyone else. You first meet someone and you think they're your best friend in the world. Your naive thinking could possibly be the reason why you're pushing people further away from you, rather than embracing them.

On another note, the fact that you think "nobody likes you" is, in my opinion, slightly pathetic and self-pitiful. The fact you'd even be concerned about other peoples opinions may be a weakness in itself. Not only this, but maybe you feel like you need to substitute the love of your mother because you're afraid something will happen to her (God forbid!), and thus latching on to people to quickly as a quick cure for that absent love.

My advice is to not give a shit about other people; their opinions and themselves. Be yourself and take pride in it, and as you grow older you will find friends. Also, stop looking for condolences because you need a harder and more level head than that. There will be people who won't give a shit about you, your mother, your emotional problems, and how it affects you; it's a Dog-Eat-Dog world...Seriously.

 

do you live in a conservative town?
causse alot of people are small minded, it's better in larger more liberal cities, but you will meet small minded people everywhere
i do think though, that it is only temporary
i don't really have any friends either, alot of them leave me behind..but i really think that it has more to do with me than them...i think alot of people can relate to where you're coming from, and in time you will meet friends that will stick with you... maybe try making friends that are older, more mature...
i really hope things get better for you, if anything you have all of us here online
i can relate to where you're coming from...with some differences, but i'm here if you need to talk

 

Yes, we're living in a dog-eat-dog-world, but at the same time we all depend on eachother.

I had some troubles with one of my colleagues. I thought she hated me, because she never asked me if I was well, and so on, as you expect by people that you spend a lot of time together with.

But then I realized that she simply haven't got excess to do such. So instead I always ask her if her children are well, and bla-bla-bla - you know, just to conversate - cuz I know she's somehow too weak to ask me about this and that. And I see that she's happy when I speak to her. If I don't speak to her, she will not speak to me.
So somehow she depend on me (we're sharing office), but I only has excess to take this social initiative bringing a good social atmosphere at the office, because I depend on some of my other colleagues.
Because - you see - I depend on them!

love and understanding,
-wolf-

 

Thanks for the responses. It doesn't sound to me like hate or even that people don't like you. It could be 3 things:

1) prejudice due to your bi-sexuality;

2) something you're doing that pushes people off (any idea what that might be?);

3) or you're dealing with people who don't want anything other than a superficial relationship whereas you seek a close friendship;

Or a combination of the above. Am I warm?

 

sounds to me like the people you have met so far are just idiots. you've been unlucky. if people are bastards to you because your bi then perhaps you should look up a group that you can join, since that way if everyones bi then at least that prejudice is gone.

if peple say you are a nice person and a good friend and then dump you, then you are probably being too much of a push over. dont put them on a pedestal, give people space and let them know you're not one to be pushed around. be assertive without being aggressive. they will respect you for it.

 

Autumnsmoonchild- I know what you feel and what's going with you. Trust me I've been there and I know every single thing of it. Here's the problem: You think too much what the others think of you. I was just like you..2 years ago I was like this and even worse. I thought I was all alone (I even had friends) but this ''feeling'' was like hiding it from me. But no, that's not true that everyone hates you. Hey, the way you post..I can see how of a good person you truly are.. Those people that ''pretend'' to be your friends and then leave you are just people that are either ''using you'' or idiots. Don't let them take control of you. And please, don't fall into a depression like I did, it's really bad. And trust me it will get better.. Take Care of yourself Sweetie..

 

When everything seems to be against you, remember that an airplane takes off against the wind....not with it.

 

I'm not sure if there are any groups in my area, but I will look it up. Thanks

I do get easily attached to people...but I'm not the type of person who would worship someone after knowing them for only a month. I guess being...nice and friendly to people I perceive as good people...is scary...to them? People...are confusing.

 

That's great advice...but I think I'm pretty much stuck in my area until I turn 18.

 

Thanks That really makes alot of sense. But in the mean time, nobody who is around my age likes me. And everyone who is older and more on my level doesn't like me because of my age, despite my maturity.I don't really know how to deal with not having any friends...basically not having anyone at all in my life. I'm not the type of person who wants an unrealistic number of friends...just a few close friends-even one would make me happy. But I don't have that at all.

 

ged useless. thats a way o sayin hey you stupid working class **** ! your not retardede.they prolly hate you cuz you bake a shitty cake. way too much frosting. in fact fuck the cake weres the bar?me i enjoy being hated. its passionate n i can do no wrong. i only ever hated people i loved.the rest were boring.people i mean to harm.... is that hate? the faceless or not so faceless whose actions cause you sum murderous intent? stabbin folks. lotsa them. had nothing to do with them just whatever powers they bent towards my bein fuct.them folks should be bent burnt n brutalized. in whatever fashion satisfies your need to be rid of there memory.so in that case i hate every authouritarian type i ever met . you can tell when you meetem cuz they anger you.its always proved out too. watch this n i explain. i know there tired tricks n love to stomp the merry go round on there heads. crunchy.

 

I'm not really all that concerned about what other people think about me...I am proud of who I am, flaws and all but I'm not cocky about it...I may just be lacking in confidence, that's all.

I don't really have any friends

To be quite honest...I already am in a terrible depression. Everything just seems so empty and lifeless...and I have such doubt in my mind that nothing is going to turn out right in life. In clinical terms, according to my old therapist I often have the feeling of being 'adhedonic' (sp). Basically a very intense lack of any sort of joy in life. I always think about how awful my life has been this whole time, and don't feel it's going to get any better at all. The lack of a caring person in my life certainly makes things alot worse.

 

fuck them bastards. i grew up in mental hospitals. mad kids bein punked out by these all knowing sacks of shite. pedophiles assgrabbers n the like. nobody comes out alive. i member this one friend. his mom was getting shock treatment. was gonna do me same. fer opposite reasons.she couldnt get outta bed. big ass beast of sadness n gloom.anyhoo we had fun. if you need drugs then buy street drugs. go out n sing. can you instrument? i suck hot ass in hell. but i do it cuz it beats jerkin off. sum sex is better than music. anyhoo. your prolly violent. go be violent. see if it hurts less or more.get you a slingshot. nurse your antisocial hotness. fuck people up n enjoy it. your prolly unbalanced. if you do enough harm to others youll feel better.too much lollygaggin.get you sum steeltoed boots. find sumthing crunchy to kick.

 

Crunchy...like seashells?

 

Perhaps a few fools don't like you.
But, if you feel that no one like you, it's because you're mature by mind, but young by age, and that is causing you some problems.

Maybe the older guys don't hate you. Did it ever crossed your mind, that probably they actually are trying to protect you from their more adult world. Wouldn't that be better than adults who frankly abused you because of your young age?
Your classmates seem too simple to you. Quite understandable. They see this mature woman, and they see a threat.

You're in a dilemma, because you think you should choose among finding a "young-clique" or an "old-clique".
But maybe you shouldn't look for any clique at all? Maybe you should simply look for a friend, and drop any worries about age? That could be the old , lonely man next door, that could be the strange guy in school that nobody talks to?
Maybe you should simply understand that, just because you're not a clique-person, doesn't mean that you can't develop a rich, social life...

 

...and within a couple of years, you can break loose.
You will travel out and meet so many people who understand you. Thousands of young people who went out on their adventures of excactly the same reasonas you did.
And then you will fall in love, and your next worry will be very different from the worries that you're having right now!