I'm 20 years old and have been dating my boyfriend (29) for almost a year now. We have a fairly healthy sex life and like all men, he has always enjoyed seeing me in silky things, pantyhose, etc. Recently he made a confession that was a bit shocking to me. He told me when he was younger (teens) he used to steal his mother's pantyhose and sister's spandex dance outfits and use them to masturbate. He even once stole panties from his neighbor who trusted him to watch her house while she was out of town. He said he would sometimes wear hose under his jeans while out in public. I'm know there are other men out there who do/have done this. My biggest problem is he is still living in his parents house with his mom and sister. I don't know if I'm just creeped out, feeling threatened, or what but I don't like the idea of dating a panty thief. Also, he masturbates A LOT. Sometimes when we get in bed he just can't get off. This makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong. I feel that if he can do it better what is the point of me being there. What he holds in his imagination is probably better than anything we will ever do together. He claims he only jerks off every night to get to sleep. Is there probable cause for concern? Am I overanylizing or am I dating a sexual deviant?
Well its less of a question of whether he is a sexual deviant then it is a question of what you are comfortable with. He will explore his kinks most likely with or without you. If it doesn't turn you on at all it could be a long road, especially if he starts stealing panties from people you both know. The jacking it instead of finishing with you sounds a little strange. Just decide what you are comfortable with and if you can't deal with it then just be honest.
Thanks for the reply and your perspective. I love him and know the decision ultimately lies in what I can tolerate. But I'd like some more opinions! It's just fascinating to me. Guess I don't understand why men do what they do.
Deviant? Naw. Different than the majority, well yeah. Like Haid said, it's mostly a question of what you're comfortable with. One of my bf's shaved his whole body and always wore thongs, that's what he liked. I was fine and dandy with it. I would personally feel a little sketchy about having stolen family's underwear though... but that's just me.
the stealling panties as a teen is no big thing, but..i dunno if he masterbates to get to sleep even like if your there..thats odd... i think everybody is a sexual deviant, deviant meanning deviated from the norm... and even those who strickly stick to the norm i think are deviants in a way too.. but it is a matter of what feels right to you and i mean right now, not what he may or may not have done oin the past, but how he is now, and i dunnpo bout you but i think id feel lil weird being with someone who rather get off in your panties then with you... seems like hes maybe got a few issues ummm....notto raise suspicions but..his sis seem ok? if his sis has caught him jerkin off outside her door..then yes your dating a deviant...
His family situation is a bit odd. His parents run a company from their home and he and his sister both still live there as well as work for Mom and Dad. Their whole situation is very intertwined and confusing. I don't think he does the panty/pantyhose thing anymore but maybe that's part of the problem. I guess I should ask him when or if he has stopped. He says he has, but I can't be too sure since he is still in the house with these women. If he's stopped I guess I can live with it. The biggest problem I'm having is that it came from his mom and sister. It weirds me out. Maybe it's some Oedipus shit or something. When we're together he will only jerk himself off if I've gotten him started. I guess he's so used to his own touch that mine sometimes can't do it so he finishes himself off. I dunno. Thanks for the replies. If you've got advice keep it coming.
eeeeeyikes well the pantie thing thats 1 thing if thats all there was, but the whole oddness of the family relationship.. the way he is sexualy with you.. i dunno the whole sexual dynamic..its a bit off for sure and id say theres a very strong possibility of some more real incest like activity there, ...could be reading too much into it but ..i'm pretty good at reading the clues and id say theres definately something going on..hard to say tho if hes an innocent victim of it or whatever but either way seems like hed be a project at least to bring him around to being more ..trying to get these wordings right..i guess acceptably confortable ..both sexualy and relationshipwise.. questiopn.....if you broke up would u worry bout your laundry disapearring all the time?
