OK so me and this girl are kind of together and my friends tell me she wants to have sex with me. But I was talking to her and she jokingly brought up the fact she might have hiv. She said shes been to the gynocologist and he hasnt told her she has any stds or things like that. But can a gynocologist tell these things just from looking are papsmeres? I feel weird talking to my friends are asking my parents about this stuff and I know this is a forum where people are open with these types of things so I hope someone can help me out.
pap smears only test for cervical cancer. That's it. HIV/AIDS requires a blood test, and another blood test some 6 months later (it can take a while to show up or occasionally throw out false negatives, so two tests is ideal) Condoms condoms condoms. They are your friend.
ihmurria is exactly right, a pap smear in no way detects HIV, nor would a gynecologist have some other superficial way of picking it up. Must do a blood test. So I agree, definitely use condoms--making sure you do it right to minimize any risk of breakage. And she really ought to go in and get tested. Testing itself is cheap, can be found pretty easily these days (any regular doc's office, even some health hairs for certain businesses/schools), so it's really worth it. You probably would want to know and though part of her may not, I'm sure there's still a part of her that needs to know for sure.
You don't joke about HIV,and if she has it and does not tell you and you have unprotected sex, in many U.S. states this is a criminal act.
I also second what Cutted said. Whether we're talking criminal issue or not, HIV is not anything that should be spoken of lightly. She needs to get tested so that she's sure, and if you're going to be involved with her, personally I think you should know her status. You could choose not to, but I'd think it's something you ought to be aware of. As for her, if she does happen to be positive, she needs to find out and get it addressed sooner rather than later.
It is also possible to test for HIV using an oral fluid screening test called OraQuick Advance, that provides results in 20 minutes. It does not require a blood sample. With this test, 96% of people infected with HIV will test positive by day 30 after infection. This test has nearly the same accuracy as a blood test. A reactive test requires confirmatory testing by a Western Blot or other method.
