I am truly, madly, deeply in love with my fiance. Every time I see him, I fall in love with him all over again... I know it sounds cheesy, but it's true. We have been together for almost 5 years, and have been having sex for about 2 and a half years. ... and I think I may be bored with it. That's not to say i'm not horney. I am extremely so! I have a hard time keeping my hands off him, and I generally desire nothing more than to rip his clothes off, and have my way with him, or let him do so to me. Except that when we do get down to the flesh, I don't feel like doing anything except for snuggling. any idea what is "wrong" with me? am I bored? what gives?
Try to explain it more. Is the thought of intercourse just no longer arousing? Perhaps you need more foreplay or something, or you could try all sorts of things to spice it up (new positions, etc.)
the thought does arouse me, but not as much as it used to. heh.... depends how you define foreplay. There should definately be more of the gentle boob massaging etc, but I just don't feel like doing anything in or around my ****. I guess a good way of putting it would be; I don't feel like having sex, I just want to "make out". I think perhapse it is all too centered around cumming lately, which I have a hard time doing. it's more like fucking than making love. I'd rather make love.
I know what you mean by more centered around cumming. We got to know each others body sooo well that sex became basically going through the motions in order to make each other come. And it got boring. We realized this though and spiced things up with a new toy and also we started doing in more in public places, which is always verrry exciting.
soeone has no cue what your trying to say.. but i hear you, you want to feel the deep emotional connection you feel only when your hearts are entirely open and your fully making love not performing an act..
Sounds to me like you miss all the start up stuff, all the things people do before they're comfortable enough to share their body with another person. The making out and the teasing, the getting topless but not having sex... foreplay/teasing is a great thing. Talk it over with him, let him know you miss all the playful stuff that's just fun for fun's sake, not because it will lead to sex, and indulge in it. It's ok to tease without having sex that day (as long as both parties know it's not leading to sex that day)
soaringeagle, that's exactly what I'm trying to say! thankyou for wording it better. ihmurria, that is really good advice. I will try and get him to go back down that road with me. Stella... you make me wish I was single and lived in boston.
I second the get out in public a try fucking outside. I was getting tired of the same old sex, then we discovered different things we could do in public. Another thing is try new things sexualy that you have never done before. That helped for me too.
My fiance is a big pussy and deathly afraid of getting cought. I would love to try the In Public thing, have suggested it and he flat out refuses.
There is nothing wrong at all with what you are going through. It is part of the tapestry, for you and your fiance. Just keep an open mind and try not to force anything.
that makes a great deal of sense. things are kind of wird emotionally right now. we don't get to see each other as often as we'd like. we are both students, and I am in a play right now. I miss hip terribly when he is away, and I feel like we are so distant when we are together, and when he leaves I feel like crying. ... obviously it's not just the sex that is bugging me right now... I wish I had a clue what was going on. It's probably just some crazy hormone imballance, but it's a real bummer whatever it is. maybe I am bored of him as a person. he has be changing alot lately. i'll stop. I'm way overanalyzing.
