lookin for a female opinion on a ex...asap plz.

right, i wana keep this short. not wanting to bore you all, haha.
the thing is, i had this most amazing girlfriend nearly 4 years back now, was very serious (3 n a half years). anyway, i took it bad when she broke it off with me. i really did love her.
in the last month or two, she's been contacting me, telling me she's broke up with her boyfriend, "we need to talk". we met up, and told me that breaking it was the biggest mistake she'd ever made. that she still loved me, n all that.

the thing is, i suppose i do still love her. yeah. but as much as i wana see her, i know i cant. it'll kill me in the longrun. i know that. for sure.
ive told her no, that i cant, n that i dont wana feel like that again afterwards.
she's not listening.
she's got tickets to my next show, with some of our mutual female friends. loads of my own friends are going to be there, and most of them know the situation.

since im the rhythm guitarist, n vocalist, in the band, i want to do a cover song (which we never do now). im really considering playing "where have you been", by Reel Big Fish. it just seems to hit every bell in my head atm.
the reason? well apart from the lyrics, it was our "band" when we were seeing each other. we loved them. we saw them 3 times, the first was when we met. so, if this band has a "connection" for us, and i play that song; will it be the ultimate "goodbye" or "fuck off" message? to have everyone think of her, maybe even look, when im up there singing it?
i need a females opinion please.
i really wana do this, but dont wana if its just gonna be another song to her.
i really wana ruin the whole night for her, as harsh as it sounds. she's just baggage now.
anyway, thanks in advance

 

infact, anyones opinion please.

 

Hurt her, dont hurt her, im not going to help. But you might wanna ask yourself if she's "just baggage" then why do you want to hurt her? are you a sadist?

 

i dont think that will come off the way you want it. she might think you are playing that song for her...as in a good way. and think of it as a compliment and that you're trying to get back with her..but then again i dont know im not in the situation

 

No good will come from revenge...

 

It may end up backfiring and you could be the one getting hurt.
If you do think she's just baggage and want to say goodbye then tell her. Make it as clear as possible and eventually she'll get the message.
Good luck with the gig!

 

yeah i agree princess jewel - she cud take the song as a dedication to her in a GOOD way.

u shud jus tell her the truth - that u dont wanna be hurt again, that uve moved on and what not.

goodluck. jus dont let it carry on, cuz it will jus get worst.