is the best way to win back somebody by no contact??

i split with my BF on valentines day. it was so perfect the night before and he was all over me tellign me how much he loved me, it wa pretty much the same on valentines morning aswell. in his card he said that i am the sexiest most gorgeous woman in th world and he wants to stand by me forever.

later on on the way to a resturant a small dissagreement started and he got very aggrivated.. insted of being quiet when i could see him getting snappy i just kept on and on and on at him until he flipped. he said he wanted to go home (we dont live 2getha) so i thought if i made him drop me off and give him 10mins.. he'd calm down. so i rang him 10 mins later but he was still really angry and said i had ruined valentines and even thoguh i begged and pleaded with him to come back n make up with me and sort out the row... he said it was to late and i should have thoughr about that b4 i went on and on at him.

he picked me up a bit later to take me home b4 he went home and i was a little tipsy.... on the way to my house i turned hysterical becuase he was being so cold and i got scared of losing him. i was really crying and acting a bit crazy. i didnt want him to drive me home and because i was quite drunk i jsut wasnt thinkin straight and i pulled up the hanbrake while he was driving (really didnt think about how dangerous it would be).
when we got to my house i was a right state cryign and begging him not to go and standing in front of the door to try and stop him from leaving me on valentines. i was really hysterical. then when he eventualy got out i stood in front of his car in the hope that he wouldnt drive .. but he did anyway and crashed into a tree and caused £400 worht of damage.

now he dont want anything 2 do with me and sais im a psyco and to leave him alone and i need councelling for how hysterical i got. i have apologised n said i wish i had jsut shut up when he told me to in the first place and i wouldnt get liek that again but he said it was to late and he deserves a life without me.
this was all hours b4 he was telling me how perfect i am and how much he wants me 4eva.

i havent contacted him at all since the day after valentines....its been over 36 huors now... the longest we have gone without contact im abotu 2 years.

i miss him so much and i totaly regret getting so out of control.
i know id i bug him and plead with him its gonna drive him away.

what do u think i should do.. do u think i should not contact him at all and see if he comes to me???

has anyone won an ex back by using no contact or blanking their ex??

help

 

I don't think that if you don't contact him, that he will be running back to you in few days or something. But you can wait for few days and let things cool off, and than call him, or show up at his door with candys or something.

 

Wow, you really pulled off a good one...

If someone pulled that shit on me I definitely wouldn't want to see or talk to them again for awhile.

Also, Valentine's Day sucks

 

the best thing you can do is show that you are fine without this person around. If you show that, and I mean truely show that, if there are real feelings the guy will probably come back around.

Being needy drives people away sometimes, my ex became very needy with me for a while and it drove me away, calling me nonstop for hours on end, acting crazy etc.

If its meant to be, it will be.

 

Maybe you can make a second Valentine's Day for him... A special day... Send him a letter and write something like a program which starts for example in a park and there you are waiting for him. Maybe he is coming than it's luck or maybe he won't come... But I think when he although thinks that you are together very happy he will come...

 

try to wait for him to contact u, dont let him know u need him or it will be over.....and dont listen to the dude who posted the last reply...second valentines.naaah...........way too needy

 

stop drinking

 

Exactly what I was gonna say.

 

Write him a short note saying how sorry you are for your ridiculous behaviour...say to him that you miss him, but you will be there if he needs you...

and yes stop drinking booze....it may ruin things for you...

Wishing all will be well again...

 

I think you should get over it and move on. Learn from your mistakes.
And like the other person said, stop drinking.

 

No real polite way to say this, but he won't be coming back and if he does he is an idiot.

You acted like a spoiled rotten child and took it out on your boyfriend putting both of your lives at risk as you had a temper tantrum not because of the alcohol, but because you weren't getting your way. The alcohol just makes it easier to show who you really are.

If your boyfriend did the SAME thing to you there is not a chance in hell you'd be saying "its okay baby, I understand" but you'd be on the phone telling your friends what an abusive jerk he is and how much he sucked in bed or how small his dick is. I've watched my (ex) friends pull the same crap with their boyfriend, and it always ended badly. Needless to say they are no longer my friends because I find that behavior to be manipulative and dishonest.

Instead of sugar coating this mess and trying to explain away bad behavior "own your shit"!!!

Move on....and let him move on with his life.

 

Because absence makes the heart grow founder - I think writing him a “short” note is a good idea. And it should be mailed and a dab of perfume added to remind him of happy times. Cheers!

 

so will you tell us what did you do and what hapenned?

 

I think you should do what your heart tells you to do. Only you can make that decision. While we all offer our opinions, the bottom line is you have to do what you feel is right for yourself. Each relationship is different with two different people. We all basically do what our hearts tells us to do, or that's my experience. We learn from our mistakes; sometimes that means loosing someone we love. But? We always get through our hurts and live on in life. This isn't the end of anything; it may be a new beginning.... Remember? It's about how we react to other's actions that will cause us the most grief. All we can do is control our emotions; not those of others. Hopefully something here will help you on your way. Just remember; loosing someone you "think" you may have loved doesn't mean you'll never love again. It's just a bump along the road. Hugs to ya!