I think something is wrong with me. I am planning to have sex with my boyfriend tomorrow for the first time as a gift for our three month anniversary. This doesn't bother me, but something tells me that something bad might happen. The more I think about it the more the feeling grows. Is this a bad paranoia of mine or is this some sort of sign not to do it?
I would say that you are possibly bothered by the notion that you are going to have sex, and it's something new to you, so it's more of a fear of something bad happening. Don't worry about it, it will be alright. I'm just not big on the whole "have sex for the anniversary" idea. It's cute, but I think that sex is something that should just happen at the right moment, not something thta should be planned, ya know? Out of curiosity... Where in Arkansas do you live?
Are you in love with him? It's silly to try and talk yourself into doing something because of what a date on the calendar says. If you don't feel 100% comfortable with it, don't do it. You have the rest of your life to have sex, and physically, your not missing out on much you can't do yourself with your own hand. The question you should be asking yourself is: do I trust this guy enough to have a kid with him? Not that you're actually planning on doing that. But shit happens, and having sex with someone who you can at least see supporting you if something like that should happen should be at least the bare minimum in my book. But that's just my opinion.
remember... once you've lost your virginity its gone forever, and many guys really get a kick out of taking the virginity of innocent females. do it because it feels right (spontaneous), not because you've been together three months
Heh.. I think back to my first time. I know i enjoyed it because it was so new, but, as far as sex goes, it wasn't all that good. You don't really know what you're doing - you have all sorts of expectations built up - you might be nervous. This is all completely normal and quite alright. Personally, I don't think you have to be "in love" with someone to lose your virginity to them. However, I'll recommend that it be with someone you trust. A lesson I re-learned when I switched over to the "other team": it's just sex.... no biggie
if you're scared to do it, don't. if he pressures you, he's not mature enough for you. it's best to start out with healthy habits in this area. if he loves you, it won't matter to him. if he's just young, horny and willing to put his feelings of lust over your feeling of security, let him go find a girl who doesn't respect herself. remember-if he gives you an ultimatum, he doesn't deserve you-not the other way around. this is coming from a guy. hormones suck sometimes.
I dunno, I'm not big on the whole "Hey! You only have one virginity!" thing...it's not like you're "losing" something, really, by having sex. But I do agree with everyone else here; unless it feels right, don't do it! Don't depend on a certain date or anniversary. I want to be more eloquent with this but that's all I have to say! It's simple, sister
Fear of the unknown, dear child. Just irrational fear of what you've never done before. Relax, and just enjoy it.
