i saw my body...

I was getting ready to get in the shower and i walked past the mirror in my bedroom and saw my naked body.....I dont think I've ever really seen my body naked before (other than getting in the showers or in a dressing room, stuff like that). I've heard somewhere that in order for you to appreciate your body you have to learn to accept it or be intune with it...something like that...can't remember how it went. but anyway, I didnt' like what I saw, and I'm not sure if I'll ever accept how my body looks. Perhaps this is the reason why I am very insecure with any guy who wants to pursue anything more than a friendship? I feel if I can't accept my body for what it is, then how can I expect others to? Now I'm not this large individual but i'm not this skinny lady with a flat stomach prancing around with middrifts and naval rings.
I stood in front of the mirror staring at my body from every angle...poking at it imagining what it would be like to have a flat stomach and my skin not be so....uh...the word? (i don't work out at all so my skin isn't firm...i'll leave it at that)and when I looked I wondered how many other women may or may not feel this way. I guess I just needed to get this off my chest. So what's your view on your body? Do you feel as I do sometimes or what do you feel?
nova

 

I feel the same. It seems no matter what I do my, body sucks! I'm the same size and shape as people I would call slim or average sized but I know I'm much jellier and flubbier. I wobble, I dont have a taut stomach, I have a fatty one, a pudgy one with squishable qualities.

and my thighs, Sigh, dont get me started on those stretched marked mofos!

 

I too have trouble accepting the way I look, especially naked.
I hate my breasts, my arms, my stomach, my thights, legs....

it makes me really insecure, knowing that i dont like myself...how can anyone like me? that's one of the reasons my last relationship ended.

 

well i'm glad to see that there are honest women out there my age. yeah my thighs are a problem for me to, it's quite an inconvienance when you go to buy clothes. I hate to shop for any kind of clothing just b/c i know almost anything I buy most likely won't fit me the way i'd like it to. everyone says "but you're so skinny" but they don't see what's underneath the materials. I don't wear revealing clothes, i wear jeans and t-shirts just b/c that's the most comfortable thing for me that won't reveal my pudges.........eh...

to get this out is such a relief

 

Honey, i'm a 32A. I do not have a flat stomach. I love my body. I know it's hard, after I realized that I should accept it, it took me, like, 3 or 4 years to actually do it. I can't stand flat stomachs, I prefer them to actually have movement, and be natural. Ugh. Like most belly-dancers I see have sort of pudgy stomachs, but they're totally beautiful

 

I think I actually appreciate how I look a lot more since I had my baby... because I gained so much weight and felt so unattractive, but now it's all gone, and I feel like I look better than I did before, because I pay more attention to myself. The only thing I don't like is that my boobs got all floppy from breastfeeding.... I figure I'll spend Noah's college fund on a breast lift. He can get a scholarship.

 

I am very lucky to have few hang ups about my body. I have a flat stomach, nice ass, thighs arent TOO bad (they are an area of stress for ALL ladies, I think really!)
But I still have hang ups! My boobs arent big enough, and that has only started to bother me recetly. I want to have cleavage, yet I know I never will .
Its hard to be happy with what nature has given us

 

yeah it's pretty hard to be satisfied with what nature has given us and even if others see us differently and tell us otherwise, you still feel ugly about yourself.
I'm always told i'm so slim and athletic looking and pretty and etc etc but i dont think so. i've always felt really insecure about myself and i'd like to change this. it's so hard though.

 

I went thru most of my teen years hating how I looked. It started when I hit puberty & started to get hips. Not realizing that was normal, I thought "my god I'm getting fat". So I all but quit eating. By my junior year, I was 5'7", around 113 lbs., you could see my ribs when I just stood up straight with my arms down at my sides, I had no boobs, but I still thought my thighs were huge. By the end of my junior year, I realized I had to start eating more, so that I would stop passing out all the time. Somewhere in there, it had become a habit to barely eat, I didn't really care so much anymore about "oh my god I'm fat".

I had the nice flat stomach, but of course no boobs.

When I was 18, I started dating & moved in with an older man -- he was 32 at the time. He got so excited when I started gaining weight. When I got up to around 125 & started to get just a tiny little pudge on my belly, he actually thought that was sexy. As he put it, I looked like a girl when we met, but now I looked like a woman. Hearing how beautiful you are several times a day every day for a year straight tends to break down some of those insecurities...

It's been a few years, actually 5 years since I left that boyfriend mentioned above. I now am up to about 150. I don't have the flat stomach anymore. My thighs are definitely not what most would consider ideal, or even attractive. I've got nice little cellulite saddle-bags happening. I feel sexier than ever. I love to look at myself naked in the mirror. I really do look like a woman, with curves & boobs & enuf body fat to actually carry a healthy baby to term when I'm ready! When I shake my ass, I can actually shake it instead of just having a bunch of bones rattling around! Hell, I can't even see my ribs anymore!!!

 

honestly...

I hate myself. I CAN'T look at myself naked. I've actully gotten suicidal about it. I cry all the time about how uncomfortable I am. I change my clothes several times a day to avoid areas that bother me. My boyfriend likes me and doesn't say anything other than compliments but I just can't love myself no matter how hard I try. I don't think he knows or realizes I feel this way.

I lost 30 pounds after I had my second baby but that did nothing for my self esteem.

 

I used to hate my body...I hated being around people who I thought looked better then me...I hated EVERYTHING about my body. But then one day I realised you know what, even though I am a size 13 and not 3, I am still beautiful and you all are too!!

 

i hate bein around girls who look better then my. i don't hate them or anything or envy them but its more a case of i feel so ugly around them....and having red hair...im subject to inbred jokes....oh the irish...we're a barrel of laughs.




the things i dislike would be my tummy,my face and my breasts...i have one thats slightly out or proportion to the other and i dont care how normal they tell me it is....it's bloody well impossible to find a perfect fit bra *grunts*

 

I guess this would be the time that "Dr. Phil" Oh might greaty one *scoffs* would come in and tell us some great philosophical words he found from a fortune cookie right? I feel for you ladies.....*sighs*

 

I didn't ever really like my body. After having a baby I realized I should have liked it more..or actualy that I did like my body before and never realized it. N am about 125 and I have an ok body but I am ver fair skinned and after having a baby I was ripped up from gaining 62 lbs. I still would like to lose about 7 pounds and or tone up. I think you are beautiful. Not just saying that. Honestly everyone has something to feel beautiful about. I just went skinny dipping for the first time a few months back. I will never do that in front of a group of men. The people I was with werte just cool. Anyways I bought a bakini for the first time in years. I have worn it a few times but not many without something over it. I don't like my naked body but I know it's mine and I have to make the best of it.

 

I was reading through all of your posts and am sad to hear that so many of you lovely ladies are upset with your bodies! A few years back I was still anorexic. I was 5'2, 85-90 lbs. and hated my body. Now I'm 115 and think I'm sexier than ever. It all has to do with perception. Like some of you were saying before, I used to hate to be around girls that were skinnier than I was, because even though I knew I wasn't fat, I was so insecure. And it didn't help at the time to have a boyfriend who checked out every female within a 1 mile radius. There is so much pressure put on girls to "look thier best".

TV obviously doesn't help. I fucking hate television now. It's all cheesy reality tv shows filled with fake boobs and collegan. And stay away from Cosmo, again, all crap. I used to subscribe to Shape magazine, but in all reality, to look like the girls on the cover you'd have to exercise for an hour a day, every single day, and eat max 1000 calories.

I like having a little bit of cushion to me now...I feel more like a woman. Of course I have the "problem" thighs, and my stomach is definately not flat, but I love my body. And I love food. I've compromised.

 

thanks girl i appreciate that comment. I don't think i've ever skinny dipped, but i want to at some point. I think to feel comfortable enough amongst friends to be naked is such a cool quality about friendships that last. I Have a friend that i adore that i would prolly feel comfortable just baring it all if i had to. well thanks for sharing your story hun

 

hi, how are you all keeping,
i also hate how i look. i hate my body and it has ruled my life for as long as i can remember. i am not a small woman, i am 5'11" and weigh about 155 pounds. i know htat this is a little overweigh, or a lot, but i don't neccessarily think that the answer lies in weight loss. i have been to my doctor - i have BDD - and they all sggest to make myself feel better i should lose weight. whilst i want to i would love nothing more than to love myself as i am. my body shape is incredibly wierd as well. i have a small waist, huge shoulders and big round hips. my bones stick out ut i am very fleshy. i have a huge long bloody giraffe neck with huge eyes and i believe i look abnormal and deformed.
it has stopped me having relationships that are healthy and normal and i have spent the whole summer preparing myself to talk to someone i like a lot when i get back to university. i am really worried that he will see all the flaws i have. i can't get past them so how can anyone else???

i genuinely do not know how to make any of this right...
and although this won't help you all sound beautiful to me.

take care of yourselves,
peace

morna


you've had that in your pants all day???

 

as the world says....you're your own worst critic....i think this is probably the most true thing ever. but its really hard to see what everyone else sees...im with a guy who says im the most beautiful person he has ever seen.....and i think that he means it because he will not look at anyone else....but i mean he's my boyfriend...id hope i don't repulse him so i don't think he's bein 1005 objective. i know thats probably terrible to be that way but you know...you can't always take those you are intimate with seriosu on things because they love who you are and see past your looks.


but i don't think anyone is truely ugly....i really mean that. im a sucker for the internal image so much. if i don't think a erson is good on the inside they very quickly become horrible to me.

and as cliché as it is.....it is what is on the inside...[i want to hit myself for even saying it] and i really do believe that....any person who takes an interest in people with no inner beauty are fools in my opinion.


i think the world is soo full of images of how you should all look......in every shop here in waterford its awful...every pair of pants i try doesn't allow for the fact that about 95% of women ACTUALLY AREN'T ANDROGONIST....WE HAVE BLOODY HIPS PEOPLE!!! and the tops......they fit like 5 year olds.....5YEAR OLDS. and when i think about it...they are always the only size left on the shelf and you come to realise its because no-one is like that stick figure with no hips that the world obsesses over.with their perfect airbrished skin and make up....ugh...and its just so horrible to see how these women are objectifying themselves and don't ,ind being objectified and all it adds to in the world is their ego and the self derrision of normal looking girls the world over.


its sick.


im not the best lookin i don't like my body and my voice leaves a lot to be desired cos its quite deep for a girl aparently...but i know it doesn't really matter because most people care about "you" nt the "image" of you.

im sure you truely are a wonderful person with an obvious amount of humbleness and some self derision to boot.


but this is how i always get my own back in my weird bitter way....

the majority of generic goodlooking people, are clearly stupid if not all of them.....ahem....*shifty eyes*



i honestly believe that in order to love the way you look you have to love yourself...and no..in fact...doctor phil stole that from me......and i will openly thumb wrestle him to prove it....raaarrrrr

 

Go to the gym, work out.

Even if you don't do much, you'll start to feel better about yourself and feel like you're doing something... trust me.

 

Hey all. I saw this thread & had to reply. Nobody is happy with their body. Everyone I encounter no matter how gorgeous they are they either still dislike something or have no clue how everyone perceives them. I have lost quite a bit of weight in my day & am much happier than I was then. I love my body because it's the only one you get. I did something ground breaking in May which upped my self esteem. I was a nude model. Here I was in front of my artist friend who is a stick. Stripped down & posed for almost 2 hours so vulnerably. It was empowering afterwards. It was a ballsy mood consdiering I barely used to look at myself naked. I now have sex with the lights on, can walk around naked by myself or in front of my boyfriend & I enjoy my body more. I've a better awareness of how my body is & how it is perceived by others. I realized I was way to hard on myself & decided to have fun, be myself & not be self conscious. Life is too short. Plus, when you feel better about yourself, people will treat you better & be able to tell how confident you are. I still am not where I want to be with my bod, but I love it & I'll work hard to get where I want. I hope this was atleast semi-helpful.