Alright, this is tough for me to admit, but really I am not talking about sexual relationships here, but just friendship in general. Somehow, I can't seem to hold on to any friends... except those who need me. I dont call anyone, because if i call people, i don't know what to talk about. It is as if everyone around me has this business relationship with me, either they are helping me, or I am helping them, but there is no real friendship or caring. but lately , iam enamoured by this idea that i really need to make some friends if I don't want to feel like I can't 'connect' in any other way other than business relationships. So, My question is really , how do you make any friends? How is it that people make friends? i make friends... but its like a business relationship, I only call when I need something and they only call when they need something from me.... is there no other friendship than that?
Friendship is based off interest... I find there MUST be a common interest and friendship will sort of happen. I have a changeable personality, ranging from an eat/sleep/fuck mentality to a more deep and philosophical one. I'm really 3 different people. I'm a loser, a thinker and in between. Different friends bring out different and fun sides in me. You'll meet REAL friends eventually. A change in lifestyle, enviornment, motivation, etc. or a new hobby/ interest can often be the catalyst for a new encounter or friendship. Try new things... Just don't end up like me... Fucking up every good relationship.
Hobbies. Best way to meet some friends is to take what ever hobbies you have and find others who do the same. Find a club. A gaming club, a book club, a canoing club, a martial art, competitive anything, a coffee/tea house with an open mic poetry group. If you find a club that internet savvy enough to have a forum or an email list or something, then even better 'cause you won't have to deal with the phone to find out when stuff is happening. (I hate the phone too. Ugh) Check out groups online of common interest (not hook up sights). I met my best friend on a forum 9 years ago. Same interests and found out we were in the same city and boom!
i agree with both chronic and body. sometimes, around certain people, you don't have to be a totally different person, just a different angle. When I hang out with some people, i'm just a chill ass smoker. Around some people, I'm an intellectual, around others I'm a game nerd. Not to say you should be fake. Never be fake, but different friends and different interests. and yea, join a club or group. You might even meet your princess leia
