Interested in advice about dealing with emotions

Hi All

I have a question - I'm looking for advice. What do you do when you have a strong emotion & you want to deal with it. For example, I just had a stressful encounter with my roomate. normally I'd call one of a dozen freinds and talk to them about it ("I need to vent...") - but they are my emotions - and I want to stop asking other people to help me carry them. Don't know if that makes sense - ...

So if there are people out there who sucessfully deal with strong emotions privately - how do you do it?

thanks
LN

 

I black my eyes and cut my wrist

 

Me too.

 

You can talk to me baby

 

I'm male.
we don't have emotions.
kinda like the borg.
...
only with football.

 

^ me too

 

smoke a sack

 

And then write a song about it.

 

Well - you never know what will turn up when you put a question on line - some times people have useful advice. I see this time I struck out!!

(& maybe I should give more thought to blacking my eyes & cutting my wrist next time...)

 

Don't wanna talk to me huh sexy

 

aaw yeah

 

whea you numba?? How I caw you if I doan hav numba!!

 

You really wanna? lol

 

I did math instead.

 

Take it out playing GTA, Gears of War, or some other ridiculously violent game. Make sure you scream at the TV a lot, then scream at whoever tells you to shut up until the feelings are gone.

If this doesn't work cut yourself and just keep playing, then try to write the song about it at the same time. You'll be too frustrated to worry about anything if you don't just die anyway.

 

hey this is a good thread.

i'm having trouble with this problem myself.

i usually smoke when i;'m feeling an emotion i don't like....but that's the same thing as talking to a friend, ....or worse.
definately worse, ....but i do feel talking it out doesn't solve the actual problem....just the symptom..
it's better to get to the root of all emotional problems so u live relaxedly.

i'd like to hear what other people have to say on this topic.
from my experience, i've found that meditation is great for increasing self awareness
, and increasing self-awareness will include a better understanding of one's own emotions.
theres literally thousands of different kinds of meditations too, so by learning about one it doesn't say much about any other method.

also, i've found 99% of humanities problem are sex oriented.
are you sexually frustrated?

i haven't had sex or much intimacy in a while, and i'm finding that i'm becomming neurotic about it. i think this is natural, for it's nature's way of telling me that i'm doing bad!
hehe

also, exercise is great too, i find it keeps the body in rhythm, balanced. this includes brain chemicals which regulate our moods.

 

layla

Great question!!

I am one of the worlds most emotional people lol...

At one time i used to drink or smoke to numb it....big mistake cos it ended up with big big repressed feeling inside...

So I got off the stuff and began to deal with myself...

I learned to sing in public and at home...I dance every day...I would go up into the mountains sit on top of one and sing and if I was feeling particulary bad I would WAIL....loudly.

If I can, i find a good friend to talk to (a while back I took some counselling and also did healing courses)...

I now work as a healer and teach people to channel their emotions...

Oh yeah and the other thing is when I am really pushed to the edge with life....I get down on my knees and pray girl.....as in PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME!!!!

All of those things, including a good sexual life, have balanced me out no end. I am now a very passionate, sensual woman, who can handle my emotions...

Good luck layla

"Layla.....you got me on my knees.....Layla...begging darlin please"

 

Unravel the thought, and decide what it is about it that is making you unhappy, then work from there.

If you find you cannot get past the feeling this way, it may be time to talk to a pro.... Without talking to you at great length, it's impossible to know if this is an option, or not.

 

dont bother with the pros until you have a serious issue, in my oppinion. IF youre just feeling bad and want to stop being dependant on people's attention, you should get involved with art, sport, fittness, your job, anything that builds on your sense of person and your esteem.

 

i try not to let little things that dont mean much get to me, if something is getting to me because i know i will need to accomplish it in life, i just add it to the list of goals and do what i can.