I think you guys most be the most open minded

I don't think I'm gay or straight. And no I don't like animals or anything weird like that.I have slight attraction to women. But not in a sexual way. I'm not gay . I was molested when I was younger by another guy. It bothers me.I don't know if it did any head damage becuase i'm not a head doctor. i think people who are bisexual are the most misunderstood people out there. I have always belived that being bisexual is natural. I think it is more natural than being straight or gay.Yet I feel that I may be asexual. I do not like guys or girls really.It makes for good friends but never the kinda relationship I would like to have. I don't know a lot about bisexuality and I'm kinda trying to ask if this how you felt when you first started to question your sexulaity.Any insight would help me thanks.

 

i don't know if it would be called open-minded so much as it just IS. we're not more enlightened or anything. we're just attracted to both sexes.

but anyway, while aesexuality is fine and and of itself, i do think that perhaps your painful experience HAS injured you more than you'd care to admit. whether or not it has anything to do with your lack of interest in sex partners is not something i could say. but the fact that it came up so readily in your questions and past experience does tell me it's a strong defining factor in your life.

 

It could have something to do with what happened too you., Or that could just be who you are. A very good friend of mine is not gay, is interested in girls, but not interested in sex, & finds the thought sort of disturbing. He's asexual & he's lived an ordinary life. That could be just the way you are & I think that's perfectly fine. You don't have to have sex when you're with someone, as long as you're inlove & you enjoy each other's company, even if it'll just extend too a really good friendship, then that's perfect. Just live & enjoy your life. Just because everyone else is having sex doesn't mean you're missing anything. The bottem line in, be happy & content with your self, & do whatever feels comfortable, don't push yourself into doing anything because you think it's the 'norm', nothing's really 'normal' everyone's different. So embrace the fact that you're Asexual, & go live your life & fuck whatever anyone else thinks, & just be happy. best of luck 2 u!

 

you never know man
and we can't answer it for you
you have to find your true self

one question:
do you masturbate or anything?

 

I masterbate a lot but mostly I think about myself. I guess that might be considered vain.
On another note I could not have a friendship with a guy/girl if I felt I was gaining satisfaction from it because I would be putting my feelings onto them.

 

Let me first say that I am not a trained therapist, but I have a keen interest in the human psyche. I've picked up alot in my years, but I would not presume to diagnose you.

That being said, I suspect that your abuse may have done some damage on some level. You think you're asexual, but you have sex often. You just do it alone. You named yourself "hated". There have been instances where masturbation was considered a form of self-loathing or self-abuse. There have been instances where masturbation was a manifestation of some trauma.

This statement by itself makes me suspect that your asexuality may be more of a defense against trusting other people. It is obvious that you were abused by someone you trusted. We are all born sexual beings. While asexuality is okay for some people, it is not considered natural. For some it is a choice.

If you have not seen a counselor for the abuse, I suggest you talk to one. It doesn't matter how long it's been since the abuse, it will affect your entire existence until you come to terms with it. You may find that dealing with the abuse may open up a floodgate of emotions which might allow you to be involved with other people on a sexual level. Once you get that straightened out, you'll be more able to define your sexual preferences.