I'm that kind of girl that doesnt care about body image, whether you shave or not, etc etc. A real laid back, what-you-see-is-what-you-get person and I find that I get my mum telling me that I'm beautiful, alot.. Now I do see myself as a reasonably attractive person, even though I dont make any effort in the way I look in the slightest bit, but I never really get any promising looks from anyone (doesnt matter whether I make an effort or not). I know I shouldnt care, but whether I like to admit it or not it is a bit of a blow to my self esteem at times. I dont want to change for anyone, and I need someone to love me for me. If I do get perved on its from someone that I'd never fall for in this life time, and I'm worried that I'm going to start to get a little desperate eventually and end up hurting someone because I havent fallen for them and get bored REALLY easily. (This is more of a statement than a comment or a question but if youd like to share your own experiences or comments thats fine) peace and goodnight!
Hello! Of course your MOTHER is going to tell you that you're beautiful! All mothers think their kids are god's gift. NOT that I'm disagreeing with her! Not at all....you might be gorgeous for all I know. I'm just saying that if we're talking about looks alone, your mother's word doesn't carry much weight: It's how YOU feel about YOU that's important. And you certainly seem to be fine with how you are and look and smell Except for the obvious problem...why don't more eligible, sexy potentially amazing partners give you the attention you deserve? Well...that certainly is a problem...and not one that will just disappear. As much as you might want to stamp your feet and say "but I'm ME! and I'm fine like I am!" - it will still affect you somewhat and for the worse. So...you have a few choices here. And a few things to think about. Firstly, realise that potential partners won't just respond to whether you've shaved your legs or not...they'll respond to whether you're smiling, friendly, standing up straight instead of slouching...in general, whether you look like a nice, friendly, fun person to be around. So how's your body language? Do you smile, make eye contact, remember people's names? That said, you know and I know that making more of an effort in your appearance WOULD make a difference in the amount of attention you get sexually from desirable people. You take the same person who's made an effort and who hasn't - if the effort is made PROPERLY then the person who has made one always looks at least 100% on the same person who hasn't. Now bear with me here because I haven't finished my point I want to set a couple of thing straight, just for the record: #1 making an effort with your appearance does NOT entail changing "who you are", or only caring about looks or clothes etc etc. It doesn't mean you become shallow...it just becomes a PART of you - NOT the whole of you. And it should never be the whole of you to the person you're with, either. #2 Making an effort DOES NOT mean shaving your legs and armpits, slathering your face in make-up and squeezing into the latest fashions designed for anorexics and then being uncomfortable and feeling silly all damned day If you're still interested, read on Making an effort means caring how you look, and trying to look the best that YOU can look. So it has to be about you...being feminine (if that's what you want) might not mean shaving your legs (which are handy for keeping you warm in winter anyhoo ). It might mean picking some colours that look nice on you and wearing a fun hippy dress in those colours, or putting beads through your hair or painting your nails those colours. Caring how you look is enhancing who you are, it has to be an expression of you - not a hiding of you! Beauty comes in many ways and forms - how do you best show your beauty? What clothes do you feel good in? How do you like your hair? Are their certain jewelry or crystals you like to wear? It's really up to you how much you do or don't do. But enhancing your looks can be really fun if you see it as self-expression - your body becomes a canvass for you to create on. Check out www.suicidegirls.com for some ideas on what I mean (warning: nudie website!! Don't open it at school). Not that you should look like any particular girl on that website, but it's an example of how being yourself is beautiful even if it's not "mainstream". Making an effort doesn't negate loving yourself for who you are!
Thank you so much THE MIGHTY TOENAIL ! Your post has certainly helped me out Not to menion made me smile too I apreciate it that you took the time to helping me out. Peace and goodmorning!
