You Think A Man Is Cheating? Is He?

How many out there are afraid of being hurt? How many out there start feeling those insecure feelings of past relationships in a current relationship? Ya start hearing those little voices say, "What'd he do that for?".... "Did he really tell me the truth?" You start second judging a person because you've had bad experiences.

I'm currently in a new relationship and I'll tell ya! I start feeling like "here we go again". I keep wanting to hang-it-up for fear I'm going to get hurt. Well! I'm gonna get hurt; the man is married! But? We get along; sex is great. I've never met anyone like him in my life. We just kinda fit lock and key (but, someone else's key). I know! You may say it serves me right; dating a married man! But, fact of life! It happens and it happened with me.

I'm scared to back out. I think he's lying to me; I think he's seeing at least one other woman besides myself. So what do ya do? Turn in to mighty "bitch" and give him a piece of your mind. He's lying to his wife; why not lie to me? Oh boy!

I dunno! Sit back and they think you're believing everything you say.

 

I really think you should examine you own post, for one you said it "He's lying to his wife; why not lie to me?"

I think if you are already entering into this relationship with maybe a little bit of a hard time commiting and trusting it would probably not be the best choice to stay with a may who is already proven not to hold either of your two insecurites as any port of priority for himself.

Also, wht kind of future do you see with this guy? If he really couldn't stand to be around or with his wife, honestly it's not that difficult to get a divore these days. So look at what is relationship is offering you? And what is it costing you?

Just some things to think about and my humble opinion is you should find someone who is not doing the things you are afraid of guilt free, and maybe find some one who want the fidelity you are craving.

 

If he were to walk in and say "I thought you should know that I have another mistress besides you.", what would you do? Just a different way to look at it. Is it the honesty that bothers you or the other other woman issue?

 

He IS cheating! with you! and I am sure he is sleeping with his wife! So if he leaves his wife for you then you think he will stop messing around?


I just caught my wife 8 months ago having an affair. I spent weeks and weeks reading everything I could about it and found out lots of amazing things. You have less than a 8% chance he will marry you IF he leaves his wife. Out of the 8% that end up getting married 2% will have a good relationship the rest will end up in the same situation they were before and most will go right back to having an affair and the rest seek seperation.

Its simple if you want a trusting relationship find someone that is single and start from there. Your whole relationship is built of lies and all the excitement from it being an affair will be gone if he leaves his wife for you.

 

Yeah...his wife.

This is easier said than done, but get out fast. The man has a wife, you're either going to get your heart broken or wind up in the center of a huge shit storm...it's gonna suck either way.

 

What goes around definitely comes around. Maybe you should be thinking about what kind of person you are for being in this situation, instead of thinking about a piece of dick and his lies.

May his wife find out and kick him and all his 'mistresses' to the curb like he deserves.

 

How is it for every husband that wants to lie and cheat on the one he made the ultimate commitment to there will be some dumb chick thinking he loves her. He just wants in your pants. Hello? You deserve to be cheated on, what comes around goes around. I mean in the future because I don't think someone who has a wife already can cheat on you. Quit helping to distroy someone else life and get a grip on your own.

 

Does the man and his wife have a family? Your age is 47, so assuming he's around the same, I'd say yes he does.

Don't be a home wrecker.

 

I can't believe I'm even responding to this, but I can't believe what I read... you're doubting the honesty of a man who is cheating on his wife? You need to seriously reevaluate your priorities/morals.

 

Ok folks! I did it today! I came home to read all these posts today; just short of actually breaking it off with him. And? One of my reasons for doing so? Was the fact that I felt horrible about myself as a person. I also know he's a good man in ways that matter to his family. But? You have all helped by writing here in support of my ending the relationships. He's the first married man that I've been involved with on this level. It's more about my own respect for myself than about him. It ended well; I cried. But? The bottom line is I could never trust him; I have doubts now as you've seen above on the actual post. Again, thanks. Don't think too badly of me. This was a stepping stone. I keep telling myself that I can hold myself up in the weakest of moments.

Hugs to ya all! Thanks

 

Glad to hear you put an end to it. That was the right thing to do

 

Words of affirmation are more than just compliments - they are ways of expressing your thanks and sincerity to your partner. Sometimes despite being in a very happy relationship partners need a little reminder to know how much the other person cares. If you are the one in need of some affirmation, tell your partner that it makes you feel more secure knowing that he/she loves you. Compliments are always appreciated, so next time your lover does something for you reward him/her with some sweet words. It really helps .

 

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