A Real Tough Decision..What Would You Do??

But, what happens when the rapist is someone you know and then sues for paternal rights???

 

Easy. Abortion.

We should take care of the babies we already have,
the world is already over-populated.

 

This happened to my best friend. She kept the baby. I would carry the baby and either give it up for adoption or raise it myself. Hard so say what I'd do, not being in that situation.

 

I'm not sure what I would do in that situation, but I fully believe women should have the choice to abort or not.

 

Bumble, that is your opinion. Just because you think a baby is not a person before birth doesn't mean everyone else does. I respect your opinion but you need to respect others opinions as well. I personally believe that the moment an egg is fertilized it is a person. By day 21 of a pregnancy the babies heart starts to beat and by day 40 brain waves can be detected and recorded.

I would keep my baby. I was never afforded the right to choose. I was sexually abused starting at a very young age and because of that it caused irrepairable damage. I will never know what it is like to be pregnant, give birth and hold my own child in my arms. My heart aches and I grieve everyday because I was never given a choice to be a mother or not.

 

I had this dilema when I was 18. I kept the baby and he's 16 years old now, and a wonderful young man. I never think of the rapist when I see my son, I think about how perfect my son is on his own merit. My body nourished him for 9 months, he's MY son.

 

I voted keep. I want a baby very much, and I know that there'd be some psychological issues involved with having the child of someone who raped me, but I would be willing to work through them. It's my husband I'm not so sure about - he is against abortion just as I am but we did discuss this matter once, and he was pretty firm on giving up the baby for adoption if I ever got pregnant from a rape.

 

I don't think I could answer this unless it actually happened. I don't think abortion is to be taken lightly but I don't want a child and I would hate to blame an innocent child forever because of how they were concieved. I think giving a child up for adoption would be the hardest thing though.
My boyfriend would also be expected to raise the child of the rapist which would be another factor to consider.
I knew somone who was born after her mother was raped and her mother treated her like shit because of it. She always said her life was not worth living and she would have been better off being aborted. But had she actually never have lived she obviously wouldn't have had the choice.

 

I would definitely terminate the pregnancy.

 

Agree. What do you want to tell your kid when he -she is older and ask you who was my dady?
"the bastard that raped me and got me frigide and unable to meet a guy"!!??
waht if the child looks like the guy that raped you?
it is not possible.
As for adoption, no, htats really mean, you have the child and keep it, or you dont ahve the child.
he/she isnt a package jsut to be disposed of.
Giving the child away fo adoption is in my eyes far worser than adoption.
Abortion, its an embryo of 3 weeks, with adoption it is a child, your baby.
No it isnt ethically nor humanly correct to disposed of a child like that.
So abortion is to be prefered. But lots of other things can play in.
Also when you are pregnant people ask who is the father, and oyu answer:
"I was raped" !!????
No ot doesnt go. it will be there all the time. not good for the child either, lying to him/her or telling the unbearable truth.. could kill him moraly to know his or her dad is a rapist!
Terminate. It is too complicate and consequences on the child and mother are too heavy.
It is bad enough as it is to be rape, without also having to live with the child of the rapist and having to tell your child who daddy is..

 

well put Lorna!

 

Oh my god. I don't know what I would do it would depend on a lot of things. If I was physically capable of taking care of a child. Would I have help rasing the child. How my partner felt about the situation if I had one at the time and so foruth. I would also I have to consider my own mental health would it be too painful? Also what would be come of such a child and how would explain the sittuation. I hope I never have to make such a desion because I really don't know what I would.

 

It would depend I guess how old I was, and what my life was like at the time.

No matter what I would have the baby, I'm 100% against abortion, but it would depend on the circumstances as to whether or not I would keep or give up the baby.

 

Terminate ASAP.

 

If the child's father is that demented... Just think of what the child could grow up to be... I wouldn't want to say to my first child "Oh your father is rapist"

 

Id abort...i just couldnt go through with it. Id just get the morning after pill though, so it wouldnt be an issue

 

I wouldnt be able to have a abortion.
I dont agree on abortion at all really. It wouldnt be easy getting over the fact that you are raising a rapists baby BUT people have done it

 

I would keep it, and raise it. I could never have an abortion, and I could never carry it for 9 months and give birth and then give it to someone to adopt. You would love them because they are a part of you. but, yeah I agree also that I would take the morning after pill, but if it didnt work,,,, then I would keep it.

 

id keep it...its not the babies fault or your fault...or if i couldnt take care of it adoption...theres no reason to kill it because it was something harmful to you...the child was a result of something bad...doesnt make the child bad