Ok, it may seem wrong to value one form of sex more than another, if you think so let me know. Oral sex is very important to me, physically and emotionally. I cant explain it other than that. I enjoy sex but if a girl enjoy's giving me head then that really means something to me beyond the act. I have a hard time forgiving a girl that goes down on another guy, but not such a hard time if she had sex with someone else. Is that crazy? all my friends seem to think so. It seems more intimate to me and It really solidifies the connection in a relationship to me. Wierd or not?
Sex can be viewed as, sensory experience and a form of communication. Yes, some forms of communication are more intimate and valued. Be Happy
Oral sex is more intimate for me also. I don't think it's crazy. It used to be (a few decades ago) that oral sex was VERY intimate... so much so that when a girl (usually) performed/gave it to a guy, it meant that the relationship was solid. It's funny now that younger, later generations right now seem to think oral sex or blowjobs are like appetizer before the meal? or a requirement before anything else.
I don't really know if it is for myself, but I think I can understand why. It's probably because oral sex involves kissing the genitals. Now, the kiss has always played an important role in our society. Marriages are sealed with a kiss ("You may kiss the bride"), Jesus was betrayed by a kiss from Judas, in some cultures it is customary to greet friends and loved ones by kissing them on the cheeks or the hands, etc. So to kiss someone on the genitals (and what is a kiss but a contact between a mouth and its intended target?) can be interpreted as a sign of intimacy, perhaps even more so than intercourse. I'm just speculating here. Any other theories?
For me it's what you mentioned and also because putting your face to someone's genitals is something spurred out of love. It can be embarassing if you're a shy one. It's also giving your partner full visual access to you (if you wish) while you're giving oral sex that's very intimate also. So just everything - the use of the mouth which is very intimate, the visual access, and the feel of the mouth which I hear is unbelievable on a penis. That's not to negate vaginal or anal sex either. It's just different, sensitive, intimate and in some ways selfless and a little submissive even though we're both giving and taking and sharing. All those things combined make it intimate. For me anyway.
