so me and my girlfriend have done everything except have sex..and i can get her off every time we do anything...it takes a little bit, and i'm good at foreplay, and i'm very enthusiastic and stuff...she says it's great. we're very open sexually and we discuss things openly. she cannot get me off, and i fear this is my own fault. for the longest time i've used a massager to masturbate, and it provides very intense orgasms. unfortunately i think this may have desensitized my penis...she feels like shit because i can get her off and no matter how hard she tries she can't get me off. i know it's not an ED problem or something, and I'm relatively large, which may or may not have an impact on it...regardless...i think i may have ruined my penis. as of now im not masturbating using a massager...i started using my hands again in an attempt to correct this...but it's extremely difficult to bring myself to climax...i fear i may have ruined myself...and i know it seems dumb but its saddening, cus she's always sad because she thinks its her fault, and im positive its mine...can somebody help?
try just not masturbating for a while if you can, especially a day or two before you get to see her. itll (usually) make you hyperawre of touch and more likely to cum
A few things... first off, yeah, don't orgasm for a few days prior and that'll often make it easier. Anything you can do to enhance yourself mentally will help as well (my bizarre thing... if I can be do something to the girl while she gets me off, like fingering her, that'll enhance it for me). And lastly, be patient. I found it hard as all hell to cum with a girl initially. But it gets easier. Just a matter of getting used to different sensations, how to coordinate it with your body's reactions. It's definitely a lot easier now than it was for me at first.
dont worry about it tagg. Your just used to the feeling of that massager, thats all. Dont use it anymore until you you can cum from hands.
