Sorry i just need to vent. I find my dad completly disgusting. He's 73 and fucking a girl younger than me (22) who is married and has a baby. the only reason she sleeps with him is because he gives her shit loads of money and a car to drive, plus pays her insturance. Also everytime she gets into legal trouble,(caught with cocaine/drunk driving a couple of times) he pays for all of it, even after she's totalled two of his cars. All for a piece of ass. Plus he constantly talks explicitly about sexual situations between him and his "little girlfriend" to me after I've told him many many times what I've thought of all of that and that I didn't want to hear anything more about her. My mom and dad split up a long time ago and my mom didn't take half of his property upon the agreement that it all be left to me. He recently told me he's leaving half to his hooker. He's also been busy selling as much of it as he can and pissing away the money on stupid shit like the lottery and god knows what else. He has absolutely nothing to show for it. Meanwhile I'm bustin my ass off to make ends meet and supporting my four year old son and he could give a shit less. He can't even remember my son's name. He pays his hooker enough each week that she doesn't even have to work. My mom worked hard as a waitress for years to pay off their debt for their property and now he keeps borrowing against it and is 70K in debt. I'm not being greedy when I look at our property, I just wanna nurture it. My dad has trashed it, it literally looks like a junkyard. I grew up there and i remember how beautiful it once was. Ever since i knew i was to inherit it I always daydreamed about cleaning it all up and starting my little homestead/farm there and passing it on through the family. There are plenty of ways that I would be able to support myself off that property, it currently has a trailer park and a flagstone quarry that could be utilized to pay off the debt but my dad makes hardly nothing off from them because there are people in the trailer park that don't pay their rent and my dad is too afraid to do anything about it. Plus he leases out the quarry and hardly sees a dime from what is made off it. It looks like I can't count on my dreams of living and loving my birthplace anymore and they were all I had. Thanks dad.
Amber: I cant say that I've been through what you're going through, but have seen it before, Sounds like dear old dad is losing it. Sounds like he's getting fucked, but not in the the physical sense. You do have options...... Spend some time, talk with the local mental health center, a counselor at the local senior center or legal aid. Sounds like dad is no longer able to manage his funds. You can pursue a legal action to have him placed on a conservator-ship. A conservator will be assigned to oversee his needs, finances, medical, etc.... Dont know the laws in your state, but most are similar...Good Luck....... .....Keep in touch...........Alaskan....aka.....Dennis.......
Sorry to hear that. You can't control another person so don't even try. You will just have to get a home and land on your own like many others. It sucks your dad is all about himself but life goes on.
Thank YOU for bringing up the subject. I'd like to post a link to this thread in my Fathers Issues thread in the Men's forum. IF it's okay with you. I hope our mens with kids here can learn the Diff between Father and a DAD. I'd talk to him about how you feel. Males of our species are not phsycic. we can't read minds. Female must tell us things. Short and to the point. Just my two cents.
I can hook you up with her number crud~~ oh and I've tried countless times to talk to my dad, you wouldn't understand how crazy he is until you met him, talk does nothing~ he only cares about getting his rocks off before he dies. He's told me countless times that you can't take money to the grave and his actions prove he could really give a shit less about leaving anything but a mess behind for his offspring.
From what you have said here , you seem to be a good daughter who cares about him and hopes that he does not hurt himself. If you think he is hurting himself, then find help, probably talk about this with a family friend or a relative and try to let him see your viewpoint. If he does not listen to anything, then let it go. Yes , it is difficult to do so, but he is right in that he cannot take his money to his grave, and you really don't care whether you get his money or not, simply let it go. There are only a few things you can do. I will pray for your father.
yeah crud, you'd definitely need a coupla bucks in your pockets if you wanted her company, some crack rocks at the least.... Well anyways I already have let go. I figured maybe my dad was doing this because he was lonely so i'd try and do stuff with him like have dinner and go do things he likes to do but he didn't seem interested in the least bit. So whatever, I give up, whatever happens happens. It just makes me mad that my mom worked her youth off trying to make sure i had something in life and now we both have to give up on that idea thanks to an old man's follies.
You are 24 years old, you can make your own life now, you don't have to depend on your dad. If anyone depends on your dad in your family is now getting hurt because of his attachments to this girl, then you are capable to help them depend on you before they get up on their feet. expectations lead to anger and frustration, you have already given up on the idea that you can depend on him, now all you have to do is show your unconditional love and care for him. No matter what kind of father he is, you have the power to be a good daughter, maybe love and care is what he is really looking for. the same goes to the girl who is sleeping with him. It is really a sad state of affairs for her, pitifully getting into trouble, being depressed and being a crack addict. She is not in control of herself, hopefully she sees this or maybe you can help her see this and get her some help.
Well, to me you sound a girl thats just trying to make ends meet whilst your father is holding you back. Ask yourself... do you really need him in your life? As with all things that hurt, and its harder to do than say, is lose contact. you cant change a man no matter what.
Amber--forgiveness is nice --and admirable.BUT--do not let this situation continue without seeing a GOOD lawyer and asserting your and your son's rights. and I do not believe your lifelong dream,worked for so hard by your mom,should evaporate over your dad's dick.Being and/or feeling "hippie" is natural to most of us here--but there are LINES in life that are not to be crossed.You are being fucked over in a cavalier,cruel,insensitive manner and I for one,feel bad for you and your son.Sometimes it takes a long time to forgive transgressions--now is not the time!Now is the time to stand up for yourself and your son.Forgive later.Maybe.----------scratcho---------
Distract the hooker with some crack and kidnap your father! Sorry to hear about that troubling situation though :cuss:
