Okay more ranting~~ My parents are driving me insane. I hate having to deal with them on a daily basis... I need to move back to the other side of the country before I totally ruin my relationship with them. Here's some examples of the brilliant things my mom has to tell me~~ Last night I told her I wanted to do cloth diapers for my baby and told her to think about the amount of disposable diapers that end up in landfills. She replied that it won't make a difference if I do it because that's such a small amount. What the fuck? And we're getting chickens this spring for the eggs. I only eat free-range eggs. She refuses to eat farm eggs. I tried to explain how horrible the conditions are that caged chickens are raised in and how they're fed such awful stuff that their eggs aren't even good for you and her reply was "I don't want to hear about it!" and she got angry. Then about an hour later she proceeded to tell me I needed to do research on the bird flu because it's spread by people's chickens in their backyard and that it is their children who get sick, implying that if I get chickens I'm exposing my kids to the bird flu~She is so fucking dumb! Every other day she is telling me how my boyfriend and I need to get jobs at the factory in our town while we're young so we're financially secure for life and it drives me nuts. And when I ask her to stop talking about it because I'm not interested because working in a factory is the last fucking thing I want to do, she doesn't. So I end up snapping and telling her to just shut up which leads to another fight. I'm so fucking sick of it. The only inspiration my mom provides for me is to not be like her. Oh and my dad is a whole other subject... I've written about him before. He cares more about getting his dick wet than his family. He is a total fucking idiot. When I told him I was pregnant his first response was you need to go get an abortion or give your baby up for adoption... how kind.... But when his crackwhore had a baby with her husband he totally doted on it (and it definitly wasn't his) he bought it shit all the time and has a picture of it hanging on his wall when he can't even remember his grandson's name. I really need to get away from these people before I go insane. I swear being back in my hometown is just making me dumber and definitly a lot more depressed.
I can't imagine this was a recent change in your parents, so why did you choose to return? is the baby born, or still only conceptual to your dad? and your mom is probably thinking of what is easier in regards to diapers. there is a miniscule risk of avian flu exposure with a backyard flock, but the flock has to be exposed first. it's be the same if you had finches in an aviary. so, not much. tell her you'll off the hens should an epidemic of avian flu hit (you will find that health officials would do that anyway) to protect the kiddo. it seems like your mom means well but is rather of a .... different time. while that is still adequately obnoxious, knowing that in her heart she wants you secure might help you hold your tounge. She sees getting the factory job as a lifetime guarantee (not true in a global economy, but once true). Lots of people suggest I sell my paintings to artisan galleries. While the thought is fine, the reality is no shops really want to open space to unproven artists, and some are getting out of 2D art altogether. My dad suggests to my swetie that he retail his art. We could, but we'd make NOTHING on it. Some people think in certain patterns and it can be difficult for them to look around the maze.
Amber: In your closing statement, "I really need to get away from these people". You answered yourself. Do it ! Your folks have their life and you are choosing yours, you can't expect them give up what they have and believe to follow the wisdom of their child. They must be doing something that works, they are supplying a home for you and your child. Grin and bear it...
All mothers try to control their kid's lives a little bit. I think it's because they see the child as "their child", so the child is an extention of them. They subconsiousely expect the child to act like they do. Maybe if you listen, just listen, to what she has to say, and then tell her you understand her point of view, it might make your mother less defensive. As for your father...I don't know what to say about that. He will probably always be difficult. Part of the problem may be he doesn't relate to you very much. Maybe it would help to tell him how you feel? I don't know. I hope my advice is a little helpful.
