It hurts her when I'm going down on her, what am I doing wrong?

I've always been able to go down on my gf and make her cum without too many problems. But we had some major sex problems last year and things are only getting "back to normal" now after about 12 months of relationship turmoil.

Trouble is, is that everytime I've gone down on her recently, she's asked me to stop after about 5 minutes or more. Claiming that I'm justing hurting her.

When I asked her about what I could do different, she just ended up getting angry with me and told me it should be obvious and that she can't have "direct contact". I can't see what I'm doing any different to what I used to do, but then my sexual confidence may have gone down since then.

Anyway - any general pointers? She doesn't seem to want to get technical, as if I should already somehow know what to do, but I need technical detail - given that she's not going to go through it with me, my only option is to ask you good people. I'm at a loss here.

 

but, what are the sex problems that u talk about... just a yeast infection o smthing more serius??

 

Maybe you are not using enough saliva as lubricant, or some other tasty lubricant that you can buy in a sex shop.

Some women do not like clitoral stimulation at certain times or for prolonged periods - the sensation may be too intense. Try doing gentle clitoral stimulation of the area around the clitoris without pulling back the clitoral hood - maybe she does not like direct tongue contact on the clitoris itself.

 

Maybe you're pushing a little too hard on the clit...that would bother me.
or shes mad at you, and doesnt want to be eaten out...or wants to make you feel bad for w/e reason...

i dont know what kind of problems you had but just talk to her...
its immature of her to just make you feel like you should know.

 

I can't have direct clitoral stimulation because it hurts too much. I'd also say it isn't fair for her to expect you to know, but maybe the problem lies with her but she's hesitant to say it? You mentioned 12 months of turmoil between you both; perhaps she doesn't feel as comfortable with you sexually as she had before?
Next time you're giving her oral sex, why don't you try talking to her, asking her if this feels good, or that, and try a variety of things (direct stimulation, just on the hood stimulation etc.) I don't profess to know much about these kind of things, but maybe it might help?