im completely in love with my boyfriend but i am a paranoid person who just cant seem to get it through my head he loves me back. I know he does but i get scared because of past expierences and realistically.. i dont want my heart broken... again. It is really tough to explain but I dont know what to do because I think that I am destroying my own relationship by being the way I am. I dont mean to be but I dont know what I can do to show him I know he does love me but im a retard? see told you it is hard to explain. i just dont want my anxiety to ruin us BUT i wont lie... i need the reassurance.
getting your heart broken is part of the love game, i know what your talking about i was the same way, you have to put your heart out and see's what happens if it doesnt work out it wasnt meant to be and sooner or later your heart will heal and you have to do it agian, i would confront your boyfriend and tell him about your past experiences and just talk with him communication is the biggest part of love
how long have you two been dating? if it hasn't been long, then maybe a little more time will help you feel more confidant
we've been together for almost 6 months. i really care about him and love him. i have told him everything. so he knows. im just totally paranoid. i want it to stop.
yeah...fear... a powerful thing i often get paranoid about some things...the best way to fight fear is to face it.
I know. Been there. It only takes time, you know? the more you get to know your partner, the safer you are likely to feel when they SHOW you (words aren't enough) that they love you. Paranoia will be there, but it gets better as time passes and you both talk a lot about each other's feelings. Me and my boyfriend are very honest about these things and we have found that the more we communicate, the easier it is to deal with these feelings of insecurity and paranoia. so, yeah, communication!!!
I've been in a similar situation where I was totally in love and wasnt sure if they loved me back. Sometimes she'd really act like she loved me, but she'd never say so. It was confusing. She didnt really end up having deep feelings for me. However, you really have to love yourself first and that's the main issue. It's not usually healthy or becoming of a good relationship when you depend on the other persons love for your identity/love for yourself.
I definitely agree with the poster above. If you are this young and worried about those types of things, unless you change your ways, you're going to be older and worrying more about them...especially since as we age, we go through more relationships...and get more baggage. I suggest you take some time away from the relationship and get to know yourself and trust yourself first.
I have similar thoughts. I too have had too have had my heart broken. I have been dating my current girlfriend for 3 months and she told me she loved me but I always have these pesimistic thoughts about her doing something. No matter what i do or whatshe tells me,they won't go away. It seems to me that time is the only solution.
im in a situation now where im in love with someone whos really spontanius & independent & free, and its just the beginning of our relationship but weve had to come to an understandingthat we love eachother but that there maybe the possibilitythat something might happen outside our relationship & talking about it has helped buil;d a understanding between us that altho noone wants it to now that at any time something might happen & if it did wed be open & honnest aboiut everything is the paranioa gone? nope, but its tempered with a profound trust in eachother & its noty even a trust that nothing will ever happen but a trustthat our love will get us through whatever does
