Friend Zone Sucks, how do i Escape?!?!

hey, me and this girl are pretty good freinds i guess..lol weve been freinds for a while, we dont do anything more than hang out, no cuddling, sex, hugs, kisses, etc. but i feel kind of a connection, and i think she does too...she asked me to go with her to prom, and i of course said yes, but i wanna get out of this freind zone...i think im startin to sink in lol, and i hate it, how could i make it clear i wanna be more than just freinds, cuz i like her and i think she likes me too, im not lookin for just sex to make it clear, i like this girls company, i respect her a lot..

since were going to prom im definitly talkin to her about me liking her more than a freind on prom night, but id like to make it clear b4 that time, what should i do?! i told her she should come over sometime soon to see my house haha, and she said she definitly will, so when she comes over, should i do anything outta the ordinary'? i think bout her a lot, like when we hang out we have fun, laugh...i think we would make a good couple, and if we were together i could see us together for a long long time... i dont wanna just b random and SAY i like her more than a freind, and i dont wanna hug her randomly or kiss her randomly cuz that would just make things wierd...idk what i should do!!! HELPPPPPPPPPPPPPP

 

okay listen up kiddo. this what you do:

keep a straight face and treat her like complete shit. say "get me a beer" and scratch yer nuts in front of her and snort.

depending on her response, will determine if she's a keeper. if she is repulsed, she aint the one for you. if she laughs, you might have something. and if she says "fuck you get your own beer you lazy asshole", you have yerself a keeper.

this will be your life after a few years together "close" like you want.

 

At first I thought this 'Friend Zone' thing was like another version of Myspace...
Anyway,
Try something simple, like asking her if you're going to prom together just as friends or as a couple. If she's interested in you she'll get the hint.

 

If you want out of the friend zone then tell her you want more. There is a chance it will mess up the friendship but it you don't take the chance then you will probably always be in the friend zone.

 

I don't understand this friend zone guys talk about ?? For me to want to be with someone romantically, I must be friends with them first so it is inevitable or else there are sides of me they never see. I've done this before - jumping straight to the non-platonic-getting-to-know-you state and it's confusing and annoying for me.

So why the dreaded friend zone? Imo, it's just a stepping stone if "friends" even works out.

 

Hebrewnation - you have known each other for a while, you are 18, she asked you to her prom - what more indications do you need that she wants you? Kiss her, already. Take it slow, but take it as far as she wants you to.

Carpe diem.

 

Here Hannah:


http://www.laddertheory.com/

 

thanks guyz, also when she leaves shes just lie Bye, doesnt even look back, or give me a hug or anything, i dont wanna ASK for a hug cuz thats just retarded hahaha,
ALSO she used to go out with this dude in collage and there done now, there not going out, and now she talks to me more and shes i guess tryin to get closer to me...
i kno that her and the guy broke up because her best freind which is my frein too, wants me and her to go out, she was like Guess what susie and jeff are over there not going out anymore, so make a move, this increases ur chances. haha

WAT SHOULD I DO?????/ i need more opinions please!!!! should i like touch her when ever i get a chance maybe she will notice wat im tryin to do?

any more advice please..
i mean if she wanted to b more than freinds wouldnt she try to put her self out there a bit more, maybe flirt more?!

 

hebrewnational00,
So she just recently got out of a relationship? If that's so, that's probably why you're still in this friend zone. She might need a little bit of single time to herself without worrying about a boyfriend. But don't let that get you down, because it sounds like she's interested in you. If your mutual friend hinted to you that you should go out with her, it could mean that the girl you're interested in told her that she's kind of interested...girls do stuff like that.

 

Thats funny coming from someone who is afraid to make a move. Just talk to her about it already. Maybe if you stand on your head in the corner she will get it.

 

we dont hang out a lot, we talk kind of a lot, and we barrely even make any physical contact, wouldnt it make it reall akward and wierd if i just randomly kiss her?!

also she said shell go with me to find a suit for prom so thats good!! she wants my company haha, and idk i just wish she made it a bit easier for me to understand what she wants, like with all the other girls they hint and send body signals and stuff so i kno or pretty much understand what they want but this girl she either just wants to be freinds or she doesnt use any body language, or any of that stuff...idk

Help?!

 

Okay, well first of all, if she asked you to prom that obviously means something. Second of all, it sounds like you have made zero initiative, how can you say she should be showing signs or doing anything when you haven't done it yourself?

And to answer your question, I definitely would say do not just randomly kiss her, although there is a small chance that if she likes you enough she'll go along with it, it also depends a lot on the type of girl. What seems to be the case as stupid as it might be is to always try to make all moves as normal as possibly (no awkwardness).

Start flirting with her and getting more touchy, if you can do this then you just keep building on it, if she likes you it will be easy and it isn't going to take long. You should be able to get to the point of putting your arm around her without just doing it, as long as she goes along with it all. And if she lets you keep your arm around her then your in...

Just my two cents..

 

man just be yourself and have fun, dont worry about anything, dont try to make anything happen. your only working against yourself. wait till she is having a good time with you and hopefully drunk. then then grab a hold and surprise her with a big kiss. no talking, more action.

 

if you don't want to get her and instead want to repulse her, do this.

 

when you are alone, close to each other, just give hera a special loving look and then you may say smth nice or even kiss her
it all depends on the situation
act on impulse

 

btw i have done a lot for her to kno i like her, i told her i like her several times, and i always give her compliments, she knows i like her im sure!! but if she likes me back why isnt she doin anything to show me signs etc, idk i guess thats just the type of girl she is, ill just take things slow, and try to Go up the "ladder".

 

HebrewNation - When you get to the prom, use it as a way to get closer to her - literally. Make sure you dance every slow dance, with you arms around each other and your bodies pressed together, so you can feel her breasts and she can feel your erection (don't be afraid to get one - it shows her that you care about her and are excited to be close to her.) Dancing is a rehearsal for sex, done vertically. You both show your moves, and when you dance close, you are doing the kind of body contact you will do in bed.

If she does not respond, perhaps she is not really interested in sex, or in you.

 

problem, i dont dance, i could slow dance n all, but i dont like dance to hip hop music, im bad at it, its just something i always had a problem with, and i donlt like dancing, but slow dancing is easy i dont mind that.

 

also i dont wanna have an erection from dancing, and i dont want her to feel my erection while dancing hahaha thats just WIERDDD haaha shell b like wtf, i didnt even try to give him an erection, i hope that i dont get an erection from dancing.

i mean if its intended than thats cool, fine with me. but not by accident.

ALSO im not really worried about PROM i wanna see wat happens b4 prom i wanna get the message clear b4 prom, that i like her, and i wanna b with her, i dont want prom to be the thing that shows i like her more than freinds, i mean its fine if thats what happens but id rather get the message clear b4 that time, also im not that shy around her, but id rather just not talk about US like that, idk i wanna hang out with her a few more times b4 prom, to get a better idea of wat im doing.