Now before you read this let me warn you, this is all pretty crazy (and very long, just to warn you) , and I don't know if anyone can help me or tell me anything different then what other peopl tell me, but its always good to let it out. It makes me feel better at least. Okay to start, I was friends with this one kid for a couple of years. Then I met this girl and was getting pretty close to dating her. But then she seemed to be taking a liking to my friend so I let him have her. But he since then has become a dick and he threw away our friendship for her. He doesn't care or even want to hang out with me anymore and he'd rather hang out with her. He stopped calling me and everything, so my take on it is whatever screw him hes not my friend anymore. The girl though, on the other hand, is now a good friend of mine even though she is dating him. Their relationship went well for the first two months and then for the past 3 months she seems to have been going on and off about him more and more and has been trying to get a break but seems to get talked out of it always by him at teh last second. Also, sometimes I used to get the impression that she did like me and still does. Now to get to whats been going on currently ( over the past few weeks, and why I wrote this). Okay so less than two weeks ago I had her and two other friends over at my house drinking. We got drunk and since I was drunk and was like w/e I just decided to make some minor moves on her. By the end of the night I had my arm around her and was holding her hand n stuff, nothing major, but she was still dating the guy. The next day she apologized about it and I said well okay but still I don't regret it. Now, a week after this she said she was 100% going to go on a break with him for real this time. This way she could figure out what she wanted and everything. So I was hanging out with her and I figured since shes going on a break with him anyways I'm just gonna go for it and even though we're both sober I'm going to try to put my arm around her to see her reaction. She went along with it and by the end of the night I had my arm around her and was holding her hand. I figured this was a good sign that she must like me and seems to be done with her bf. So tonight I did the same thing again and she went along with it yet again. Now the thing is, today she told me that she didnt actually go on a break but shes just gonna stop hangin out with him for a while by telling him shes busy and stuff, this way she doesnt have to fight wiht him over starting a break and stuff. Heres what threw me off and got me pissed. Tonight I was talking to her, after we had both gone home, and she said that she tried to call him and because she said she would call him later, and I was like: What? I thought you were going to go on a break, ushouldnt be talking to him. And she said she cant be mean like that.... Then she asked where he was at.. I said hes at a movie... and shes like Is he with that christina girl?!?!!? (Which seemed like she was really jealous and cared a lot) And he wasn't wiht her actually so i was like no he isnt... wow jealous much? she denied being jealous but it seemed like it... Then I'm like why do you care if dereks at the movie with her? I thoguht you wanted a break and everything?? Then she's like hes still my bf, I still like him... And I'm just thinking wtf, it seemed like she was about done with him, and that she liked me... but now I just don't know... I really don't know what to do... I've probably made some bad mistakes already... Do I just stay with what I've been doing? Do I pull away and stop? Do I bring an ultimatum and make her choose? Do I be patient and see what she does? Any opinions or help is greatly appreciated... Thanks and thanks for your time.
I say move on. She wants her cake and to eat it too. You can't have everything all the time. She obviously doesn't want to choose one way or the other. She probably does like you or at least the attention you give her and the same goes with the bf. If you want to be "played" with then by all means stay and play but from the sounds of it, I think that's about all you'll be doing.
Wow, this seems a bit childish for 27...on everyone's part... Go look for another woman...someone a little more mature and not playing games with people.
okay haha that makes more sense. I was thinking "a 27 year old has these problems?? hmmmm, well, okay.."
Man, you never mess with a friends girl no matter what the circumstances or any attached girls for that matter. I never have understood some people wanting to get with the girl that is already cheating on her boyfriend. There will be some other guy hitting on her when you aren't around you know. I would quit talking to the crazy chick, appoligize to my friend and avoid these situations in the future by hitting on unattached girls.
Dude, youe 17...shes a pain in the ass....dont waste time on her. Find someone else with less drama. Just use he whos cares least on her. If shes really into you she'll come around on your terms.
Well today's the big day. I'm gonna pretty much decide everything on it. She's going to be seeing her boyfriend and they're going to discuss everything. So they might break up they might not. If they do, shes mine.... If not I'm done with it all Oh and btw he isn't my friend, he used to be my friend but he became a dick so I stopped being friends with him a while ago.
I just thought I'd update... She didn't break up with him they decided they were going to stay together and if things continued to not work out they were going to break up. I still hung out with her yesterday despite that, and got her to let me put my arm around her. I basically talked to her about everything and was just open with her. She said she likes me a little. Then later she drank a little so I asked her again and she told me she likes me a little more than a little. Because I don't care that much anymore I decided to kiss her just for the hell of it and to see what she'd do. She totally pulled away and wasn't very happy about that haha. And today she cancelled our plans, probably because of this. So I decided the best thing to do was just to cut her off. I told her we shouldn't hang out anymore until she figures everything out with her bf. So now I'm just going to hardly talk to her, not hang out with her, and when I see her at school not show any interest or flirt at all. This way I'm done getting involved with this mess and she can figure everything out. She could end up missing me and something could come of it but I dont know if thats going to happen. w/e happens happens... Thats the way I see it. Thanks for the help... Any further opinions?
She's a two timing you know what. Leave the chick alone. Leave your ex guy friend alone. In the end, they will both be alone. You won't be. You'll be with someone new, someone who'll admire you unconditionally.
Hah, yeah they probably will be. My ex friend basically gave up his two best friends (me and my friend) because of the girl.... And this was before I made any moves on her whatsoever. He basically got to the point where she was all he would want to hang out with and all he cared about... I guess he doesn't understand "bros before hoes" haha. He is in a bad position when they break up.
she probably tells her bf about you all the time you know? It is either a running joke or he is wicked pissed. You should cut things off 100%. Not mostly, completely. I Had a feeling the kiss would turn out like that. I will never understand why people hit on others who are taken.
