I'm in love with my boyfriend. We've been togeher for 7 months and things are good. I started a new job 3 weeks ago and i'm pretty sure i have a crush on a guy i'm working with. It's freaking me out! Why do i have a crush on this guy when i love my boyfriend? Is this normal? Does it happen to people in relationships? This is my first real relationship so i don't know how to handle my crazy thoughts and feelings. I need some help, please!
Don't forget to breath. It's normal. Just don't go screwing up your relationship over guy #2 if you really think your relationship is a good thing.
I'm scared that i will! It's not that i want to at all but i'm freaked that if i was ever in the position to do something that i actually might. I feel horrible for even thinking that. It makes me question how much i love him because if i really did then why would i not be able to trust myself? Sorry for rambling.
You're at that balancing point between trying out different people and settling into a relationship. I don't know what to tell ya...on one hand if you do nothing you may forever compare number 1 to what number 2 could have been....but if you do something you may not be able to handle the guilt and could self destruct with #1. Maybe you should go with the philosophy that love involves sacrifice, and ignoring your feelings about #2 would prove a huge sacrifice and confirm your love for #1. You can't always prevent how you feel, but you can try to control how you act. On the other hand you could admit you want to see whats out there still. In the end it's up to you, just seriously think about what it is you might be losing, and if what you want is worth the risk. My thing used to be for two friends....talk about complicated, lol. The drama continues a decade later and the honeymoons have long been over. You'll make the right choice, and if you don't I can promise life will at least be interesting
Crushes are common...even in relationships. Crushes are also often short-lived. The feeling will pass, I'm sure...and if it doesn't, well then...you have a choice to make.
oh man my girlfriend did that to me. after four years bam! she has a crush on another guy so that must mean that she's not really in love with me. yea i couldn't understand it but it's whatever. I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy. you have a seven month relationship. don't screw it up.
oh well it's normal though not very good for your boyfriend i dunno what to advise just wait...time will tell and listen to your heart
Love is not just a feeling, it is also a choice. You can have feelings for more than one person, but you still have a choice which person you want to have a relationship with. That being said, if you value your relationship with your boyfriend then avoid temptation. BUT, please try to do it without beating yourself up every time you get the hots for someone else. Just know yourself and what you wish to avoid, then act accordingly.
Thanks so much everyone! You really put things into perspective for me. I really don't want to screw this relationship up so i'm not going to do anything stupid. I'm hoping this crush for #2 will pass in time and i'm fairly certain it will.
