Is it just me or does it seem like everytime you LOAN a hippie something you NEVER see it back? Except one special mama who healed my heart by showing me that she offered to return what I allowed her in her time of need (you may laugh, but 10 dollar fluffy socks, I can't wear anything but, I'm addicted). Once she did that I didn't even want her to return them. I thought she deserved to have them for not assuming it was her just cuz she had a chance to take them. Other friends on the other hand, are a very different story. Does this piss anyone else off. Let a friend wear a hoodie, borrow a tent, and you never see the shit again. Almost makes me wanna kick ass.
my boyfriend says this is weird of me, but I don't feel it's my place to ask for things back, even if I want them. I think people should offer them... I do ask for big time stuff back. I just hate people making the assumption
I have a ton of shit that people lent to me a long time ago... I usually just forget about it, until they ask for it back like a year later
As a rule, I don't loan something - I just give it to them. That way, neither of us has to worry about it finding its way back "home" again.
Thanks. I'm not the only one. So it's either, I loan something and never expect to see it back, ie. "give". Or don't give out at all, and be a dick. It leaves alittle akwardness... especially if you would like to get it back. like someones cold, here's my favorite hoodie to wear while your cold (that costs like 100 bucks). I just think it's rude to assume now it's yours, and selfish, unless someone really vibes on you it's cool to keep. It's put me off before on some kids. Just cuz I work hard for what I have (I do not know what I pressed to make it Illalic...lol). But I guess thats part of the "way". I also believe thats why alot of people do not like hippies.
Awesome. I'm not weird. Both a girl and a guy said they feel the same way. But yet, is it not rude to assume? unless your really just forget?
its true, my friend loaned me romeo and juliet two years ago and i seriously doubt hell ever see that exact copy again. lol.
I feel wierd asking for something back I kinda just expect it back lol but it is pretty rude to assume that you can keep it, also its kinda rude to assume that someone didn't just forget and is going "Bwahaha I'll just keep everyone's stuff >D" but then again there people like that :jester:
That is a stereotype and you should just say "loan PEOPLE", instead of "loan a HIPPIE ", because whether a person has a sense of responsibility in getting your personal belongings back to you, has nothing to do with their being a "hippie". It has to do with their lifestyle organizational abilities, follow through on being a responsible person, and degree of integrity with a respect for others. If you are talking about someone who is slothful, forgetful, (so stoned all the time), irresponsible, messy,(your stuff gets buried in their chaos), and someone who would knowingly borrow something and knowingly not return it, then you might find a different label for them, because true hippies I know have their life in order enough to return things of mine that I let them use. They are grateful for my kindness and generosity, and would like to ensure that they will have this benefit again.
I've found that the hippie-type people that I've known are the most responsible...most of my loaned stuff that has never returned has gone to more middle-of-the-road, status quo type folks...not saying that they are worse than hippies, just stating that my experience has been different. Have to agree with A.B.E. here...at least with regard to my own experience.
I know it's a sterotype and not all "hippies" fall under it. I did use that term on purpose though because I do not generally see it happen as much in other circles. It may also be a reflection of my age and hanging out with other kids my age. My older friends don't do that shit.
Never loan anything you're not willing to part company with permanently- including money. That way, the lack of a return is no bother. It's not as though we're going to be able to take our massive bank accounts with us when we expire.
I'm kinda old fashioned with loans - if I borrow someone's stuff, I like to give it back as soon as possible (before it gets lost/damaged!) and if someone else has my stuff, I expect the same. I once had to ask my boss three times to return a DVD of mine he had for about a year - and to this day, he thinks I was the unreasonable one for wanting my own property back. I've had similar issues with 'swapsies' - I hang out on a lot of fan sites, and say there's a TV appearance or radio interview or something, and one person has it, they'll copy it and swap it for something else the other person has. SO MANY times I've made copies of stuff, and sent it off, but never got the other material in return.
I still have a sweater from somebody. I offered to return it to him by international mail, on my costs. He told me to keep it.
