About being single

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by YellowOchre, Mar 17, 2007.

  1. YellowOchre

    YellowOchre Member

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    Its three years now since I last was in a relationship. Sometimes it's a groove being single, and sometimes it's a misery.

    Whilst being alone myself, I have observed my friends finding love, and loosing love. It seems to me that however happy you may be when your relationship is good, it can't compare to the pain that appears when it ends. And all those times I've watched that and supported my crying friends, I ask myself; Is it worth it?

    I have a hard time trusting people, and I wonder if there could be any joy in a relationship if you constantly worry about whether the other is true to you, or whether he or she really loves you. You can never be sure, because people can be very good liers if they have to, if only just to avoid hurting you.

    I would very much like to have a boyfriend, but I wouldn't want it to end. I hate making other people sad, and I wouldnt put myself in a situation where I might have to hurt somebodys feelings.


    But oh well! Being single is great anyway. Then you can be happy all the time if you wish to. And that is a groovy opportunity :)
     
  2. ms.curiosity

    ms.curiosity Member

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    I understand what you mean. But I think when you fall in love, you can't help it, even if you think it might end painfully, you can't stop what you feel...you can't stop love, if it happnes you just have to go with it. Yeh, it sucks...
     
  3. Lucard

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    There are worse things than being single...like being in a not so good relationship. Last year i had a girlfriend who got a real thrill because of my glasses. Not because she liked how I looked in them, but because I NEEDED them to function. I think it was her way of initiating foreplay. a few times she would take away my glasses and drop them on the floor because got off on seeing me crawl around on my hands and knees blindly feeling for them.
     
  4. Duck

    Duck quack. Lifetime Supporter

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    you are 17, stop being so overdramatic :)
     
  5. YellowOchre

    YellowOchre Member

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    Life is no fun if we don't overdramatisize it a bit, is it? :)
     
  6. Duck

    Duck quack. Lifetime Supporter

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    I tend to overdramatize too much at times

    but I do agree that without any dillusional drama, life would be quite a bore
     
  7. Marija

    Marija Senior Member

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    Some risks in life are worth taking.
    If you don't have a relationship, or try to be in one you will never feel love, real love, boy-girl love, the best feeling ever. If things don't work out, you will have one more experience in your life, don't woory about the pain, the pain will leave sooner or later.
     
  8. Bella Désordre

    Bella Désordre Charmed

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    Being single has been great and I am thankful for the time I was able to spend alone, getting to know what I want out of life and in a partner. Most importantly I learned a lot about how to make others feel special and cared for. I feel like my journey in that aspect has come to a close and I am open to having a partner in crime :D
     
  9. run2fly

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    Being single is about 50/50 for me. Most of the time, I've been all right with it. Recently, it's been tough. But I think both being single and being in a relationship have their pros and cons. It's a trade-off.
     

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