Is my GF being ridiculous?

OK,here's the deal.a week or so my ex gf tried to kill herself,spent a lil time in the nut ward.she asked me if her & her son could come stay with me for a few weeks til she gets her head straight,& naturally I said sure.even after breaking up,we've remained good friends.well,my current gf,says I have to stay with her the whole time the ex is at my house.the first night I stay in the same room as my ex,we're done.I've told her my ex & her son will have my bed,I'll take the floor,but she wont have it.How the hell am I gonna have houseguests,& only "visit"them while theyre at MY home.I think she's being totally irrational.what do y'all think?

 

I think i would feel the same.......

Your ex is in a very vulnerable position and your woman may think this will come between you and her.......

I can understand her fears......maybe its not you she doesnt trust, but your ex, who is probably feeling very much in need of comfort and warmth...

Can you see where I come from?

Good luck....hope all goes well for you

 

yes shes being rediculouse but yes its understandable

invite the gf to stay woth u at your place too

 

You girlfriend is feeling insecure, she probably feels that you and your ex may get back together. is there any chance you could stay at the house with your girlfriend and your ex? If not, you have to reassure your girlfriend that she is the one you want. I'm sure most girlfriends would feel paranoid if their boyfriend was sleeping in the same room as there ex. How would you feel if your girlfriend invited her ex boyfriend to stay at your house and said she'd sleep in the same room as them? Your girlfriend is not being irrational, she is being insecure and afraid that your ex will come between you. Does your ex have anywhere else she could go to, family etc..

 

I guess I can kinda see her fears considering she's 39 & my ex is 24.but at the same time,I feel like she's being overly possessive and totally untrusting.I'd do the same thing for any friend,male or female.unfortunately,no my ex has nowhere else to go.her mother is trying to have her committed & her son put in a foster home.I'm all she has at the moment.as for how I'd feel if the shoe was on the other foot,I could care less.I'm a pretty trusting & understanding person.I've been telling her her fears are unwarrented,but she wont hear it

 

Come on, an ex is different then a friend. You should be happy with the compramise being offered because not many women would even go for that. You know damn well you wouldn't want one of her ex's living with her. If you care about the current girlfriend I would be finding somewhere else for the ex to go. IMO, you are the one being ridiculous.

 

Thumbs up to all you say Haid....!!!

 

I agree with Haid.

While I understand that the ex has no place to go, are you really sure that you can handle the situation? I know from experience how easy it is to turn to my ex for comfort, and how easily it can turn into much more. Not saying it will, just saying with an ex there is a level of intimacy that you don't have with a "friend."

You should stay with your girlfriend, or find another place for the ex (preferred). I am sure you can find a cheap motel or something that will cost you a lot less than losing your girlfriend in the long run. Hell, she'd probably happily chip in for the motel.

On a final note, does her mom have valid reasons for want to commit her? A suicide attempt is not something to take lightly.