Attracting the beautiful girls

This seems to be an issue with me all the time during break and dinner at college, and it would mean the world to me to talk to a really pretty girl and then in time we become good friends, leading to her eventually becoming my girlfriend.

I know it may sound rather silly, but it is something that for some strange reason feels important to me.

I'm not expecting an instant girlfriend, but i'd like to talk to a pretty girl during break and dinner who I can relate to and have as a good friend to hang out with and we can talk to one another about various things - I mean it's not stupid, unfair, unreasonable or too much to ask for is it?

I mean today at college (Monday), there was a nice girl with black 3/4 length pants on and with dark hair sat with another girl, and I may have looked at her once or twice, and luckily she didn't look at me, and I thought "This girl looks a bit too old for me" and this was whilst I was sat in the LRC for the one hour numeracy session with the male support teacher that helps me by going over past exam papers from about a few years ago and just numeracy exercises.

I overheard her saying about how sexy a lad is or something, and I assumed she meant me, but I just took it with a pinch of salt and didn't believe it too much, and she may NOT have meant me.

When I spoke with the male support teacher, I was discussing about the Numeracy and how i'm finding certain things difficult, as well as going over the tasks I was getting on with and checking the answers. An asian girl who was sat with the girl was smiling at me (one of them smiles like I mentioned about that girl a couple of weeks ago, one as if she felt sorry for me, so I just looked at her and asked her what she was smirking about, and it made her feel the guilty person, which was why I did it.)

When talking about finding the numeracy work difficult, and how i'm just hopeless, he'll tell me how i'm a nice guy and alright, but I take it with a pinch of salt. Also, a guy sort of looked at me disapprovingly as he said it and I felt uncomfortable hearing him say that, and I hate being told that.

I felt so bad about the girl, and when she went out the LRC later on with her mates, the anger just ran through me, knowing that i'm not able to attract a beautiful girl, so I headed over to the Bistro to have my dinner, and sat there for 5-10 minutes, and hoped there was someone there, but there wasn't, and knowing that I do this sort of thing every week, it sort of gets to me and really takes it toll, so after the 5-10 minutes after eating my dinner, I then went off again, with the anger running through me, at this thing again, but as I went out the Bistro, some girls were on their way in, so I tried to look friendly and stood and waited for them to walk through and then went out in my usual fashion feeling angry again.

I sat in the LRC again for the rest of dinner, and there were no nice girls about, but the anger ran through me again, but subsided a bit. I was then angry about having to sit around until my next lesson, and I felt angry as if I just wanted to have a go at someone or punch someone just to make myself feel better, and even thought about going into the toilets and punching a mirror or going into a cubicle and punching the wall inside in anger.

I never did any of this, but I could feel the frustration within me at all of this. Not having a beautiful girl that I can talk with and relate with is what triggers this anger of mine off.

I felt sick to death of just sitting there and felt like I had to do something to keep me busy, so I just went to my next lesson.

This afternoon, a lad on the corridor talking to a lad said how I looked "gay" and then at the end of that lesson when it was time for finishing, a class was waiting outside to go into the room for a lesson, and some lad made was just looking at me as I walked past and he must have said something and a girl said something like "don't be tight."

Incase you don't know, tight means cruel, and a word that people tend to use.

I'm not sure if my facial appearance lets me down, and if that will harm my chances of getting a beautiful girlfriend in the future.

I've thought of a way to divert my attention from all of this, and i've thought about doing Media Studies next year at college and from what the Media Studies tutor said, he said that I wouldn't have any time off and that it would keep me busy - I hope there are some pretty girls in the class, but they'll probably be too busy with the other lads.

 

Just relax and talk to a girl or two or how ever many u desire. You only live once man just friggen talk to them. Dont be self conscious they are just like you only they have a different anatomy. No big deal man just do ittt.

Good luck.

 

The problem though is that most of them are with their mates and they'll think that i'm some of weirdo - I'm just going to get rejected.

I need all the luck I can get, and whilst i'm in college, this thing will never go away, and it was even there last year as well.

 

Well i promise you this, chris. You wont get far without trying.

 

chris u know that coming back while banned is a permanent-bannable offence right?

 

I can't quite work out why my original account was banned, and it's not as if I said anything to upset anyone or do anything wrong - I do sometimes wonder what it was that caused me to get banned.

 

Have you get a girlfriend yourself Obscured By Clouds?

 

Chris, have you ever read the Catcher in The rye?

 

to attract a "beautiful' woman all you need is confidence. do watever makes you happy and feel good about yourself, then go straight to some type of social gathering. before i go to a party i like to hit the gym hard, shower and change while listening to music, then i hit the party in a feel good mood. since im in a light mood its easy for me to chit chat. i dont know what makes you feel godo about yourself, but thats how i do it.

just relax, and know that if you get rejected, just move on and try again.

it may sound cliche, but its what you gotta do.

 

Well this afternoon at lunchtime (Tuesday) after just coming out the Bistro after 5 minutes of eating my lunch (i'd just finished) and I saw the prettiest girl I have ever seen in college with a lad (he's probably her boyfriend) and she had a pretty, friendly smiley face, blonde hair and blue eyes and I looked at her as if I liked her when I walked past her and the lad, but she didn't look at me, and glad she didn't - She was a girl with real beauty and real class and the sort that really interests me and floats my boat (if you get what I mean).

I continued walking feeling bad inside about her and also I sat in the LRC and it was on my mind and the frustration just ran through me all afternoon, even now, and when I came out my communications lesson this afternoon, she was their with the lad at the corridor again and I didn't look at her that time, and they were talking, and the girl is obviously taken and not vacant.

The thing that guts me is how I can't get girls like that, and ideally i'd rather get a girl through college, and she's the sort that I want, and not some cheap plonk that is cocky, mouthy, overconfident and just slaps make-up on. I get the impression that the girl is nice, friendly, down-to-earth and just looking at her tells me that - A girl with REAL class.

This is what really triggers my anger off and causes me to behave like I do, and there were times when I was bored again just waiting around, and I just don't know what to do with myself.

Supposing a girl of her calibre was willing to take a chance on me, I WOULDN'T want to disappoint her, and i'd pull out all the stops to get everything right and i'd be nice and gentle with her and treat her well.

I sometimes think about doing something drastic such as bring in some alcohol into college and drink it in one of the private college cubicles and get a bit drunk - I've never ever done this, but this has crossed my mind.

99.9% of the girls at college aren't as pretty or of the same calibre as her, and that disappoints me.

I'm not exactly what you'd call top drawer, or a guy with muscles or real hunk and maybe the girl is out of my league, but I won't give up.

I mean just thinking about this all afternoon is enough for me to have tears in my eyes, and even as i'm writing this this very second, I feel just that way now.

There were times this afternoon when it was about to slip my mind, but I just got angry inside and made sure it stayed there right in the forefront of my mind. I couldn't be stupid enough to stop thinking about it and letting it go and calming down, and I fear that it's going to go again, so I might try and get angry inside again and make sure it stays there in my mind.

 

Well 99.9% of the girls at college aren't what i'd class as beautiful or got real class. It'll take more than just confidence, and supposing I had that, I can't imagine it making much difference.

Well good for you is all I can say really.

I'm not what you'd call a very out-going person, and someone just wouldn't go partying/nightclubs/pubs on their own, and it's something they'd do WITH their mates.

There are certain things in life that you can't do on your own, and I suppose that is one of them.

Also, I haven't got any friends at home, and back in February I had a discussion with my mum about going to the pub/nightclub on my own in the future, but she was saying how it's the sort of thing you'd do with your mates and not on your own. My Dad then spoke to me about it, and said almost the exact same thing, but he told me about the horrible people in pubs and how someone nutted him on the nose years ago and broke part of his nose. He sounded like he was shouting/having a go as he was telling me, and he even apologised and said that it was only because he doesn't want me to end up like that.

He told me about if a guy saw me chatting his bird up and reacts by throwing a pint glass in my face, and how you don't look at people because they'd say "Are you staring at me!!!??" and how to learn when someone is really your friend or not, in the way that someone would always expect you to buy the round of drinks and make you lose your money.

 

I haven't got a clue what you're talking about Aristartle, and what has that got to do with this?

 

theres nothing wrong with going to a bar/pub on your own. never in my life have i seen someone get hit in the face with a pint glass just for chatting with someone elses girl...if she has a guy, move onto someone else.

i've seen plenty of woman go to the bar by themself to

its fun with your friends, sure...but you can have fun going out by yourself. i think your dad is trying to scare you.

 

So you think that my Dad is trying to scare me now?

I think so as well, but he is right in a way though, and I don't disagree with what he is saying, and i'm not naive enough to think that it won't happen to me.

My preferred place to meet a pretty girl would either be in college or in a future work job.

 

I'm not doing this for attention, and please don't start being awkward with me Dirk Pitt.

 

talking to your parents about going to the pub?

dude, you're 18, grow some balls and just stroll on down, step in the door and ask the bartender for two pints, one for yourself and one for the first pretty girl you see

it's really that simple

there isn't anything you can DO to attract beautiful girls, and thinking and plotting plans is no help because attraction is something that happens or doesn't. Sure you can put on a front, flash some 'bling' or whatever, but your shallow actions will get you nothing more then shallow girls. Beutifull girls, the ones with class your talking about, are beutiful because they are themselves and it shines and radiates and drives guys like us nuts. So just try to be yourself, dare to become a beautiful person, and chances are life will just throw something reciprocal your way.

Again, key words:

be yourself, be confident

I wouldn't take any advise beyond that because you gotta do it your way man

peace

 

It sounds to me like you have insanely high standards, after reading some of your posts. Unreasonably high. And you may not notice it, but sometimes you are a real jackass. Like that girl smiling at you... she was being nice. You need to work on that.

 

haha^


chris, sometimes i just think you come on here to screw with us

 

I've always held the belief that he was just a really good troll...but I've changed my mind. A really good troll would have changed things up enough a little bit over time and usually have enough imagination to improve upon their tactics.

So I'm back to thinking he really is completely oblivious to his social inability and how the aspy's effects him or he's a really bad troll.

I'll admit, it's been an interesting phenomena to watch though. Part of me will almost miss the attention whoring and yelling after the perma ban.

The Catcher in the Rye was mentioned because the main character is a whiny teen who thinks the whole world is full of phoney's and his whining is very similar to yours in a lot of ways.

 

fixed.