I'd like your opinions.

So I have this female friend who I've had for quite a long time... I guess about 7 or 8 years. In my opinion, we've never been super tight buddies or anything, but we've been close enough to sleep together (and by that I mean actually sleeping in the same bed, not having sex). And as far as I know, she has only ever thought of me as a friend... but for a while, I've kind of hoped for more.

So, basically, I'm wondering if it's worth telling her considering the following things. One: there hasn't been much of an indication that she's interested in anything more than friendship. Of course, on the other hand, I think I'm very bad at sensing things like that. I know that she enjoys herself when we're together, and she says she loves me, but I don't think it's meant in a romantic way at all. I'm thinking that I'm just the kind of guy that she couldn't invision as anything other than a friend. Two: I remember her talking about one of her guy friends confessing that he liked her, and she was weirded out... I definitely wouldn't want that to happen. I'm actually pretty confident that she wouldn't think I was a creep, but it could still turn out "uncomfortable." Three: we live on opposite sides of the country, so right now it would be really difficult to have a relationship even if she was interested.

So I'm just trying to figure out if it's even worth bringing up. I mean, I've been silent about it for a few years now, and I guess I could continue. As I'm sure you can understand, I don't want to fuck up a friendship. But there are so many things that make me think we'd be perfect together. I mean, we really don't share the same taste in a lot of things, but our general outlooks just click, I guess, and her family loves me, and my family loves her... so much of it seems right.

Eeeeh, what should I do? ()

 

Go for the gusto.

A couple of beers wouldn't hurt the process either.

 

Man, I went threw a situation similar to that. I have this amazing friend whom I' liked for a long time, but I was fairly confident she didn't she me as more than a friend. Although I tried more than once, I never told her how I felt and now she is seeing this other guy who imo is an asshole. My advice would be tell her how you feel, cause I still regret never telling my friend how I felt.

 

awww

hmmm...dont know dude. but whatever happens, i hope its for the best

 

make a surprise appearance and flirt like hell.

 

That'd be my option :H

 

Well, we're going to a concert tonight, and that's cool, but... I know I won't say anything. I'm such a fool. I know that she recently broke up with her boyfriend, too, who she said was 'insane.' I should try to tell her, I guess, but... I know I won't.

Haha, I know how you feel. All of the guys she dates seem to be assholes... and since I don't usually think of myself as an asshole , I'm wondering how she could be interested in me.

 

Assholes usually seem to get the good ones.

 

Pretty obvious. Don't go for it now.

 

She back in OH?

 

Just get well oiled, and go for it

 

Depends.

If a relationship is not possible right now, then you're better off keeping her as a friend and not potentially creeping her out.

I would still flirt like hell though.

 

just a piece of advice..long distance relationships suck really hard..

 

I just see them as being out of the box.

 

it's unbearable and so fucking shitty

 

Yes...Out of the box. Meaning you ain't getting anywhere near her box when she's on the other side of the country.

I say wait till a relationship is possible, then go for the gold.

 

words....words...blah blah.....ehhhhughhh

huh?

 

The thing is, I don't know if that will ever be the case. Right now, she's in Ohio, and I'm in Seattle. I think she's planning on staying in Ohio (at least until she finishes school), and I don't have any plans to leave Seattle... and even if I did leave Seattle, I don't think I'd go back to Ohio.

How bad does that suck? ()

 

but ohio is ever so much fun!

 

tell me about it.

just like.. find out how she feels about long distance relationships