What are you looking to gain by telling her? Are you just doing so to 'test' her friendship loyalty? If so, I don't see the reason to do so. If you were attracted to her then I'd think it a valid reason to do so. You don't owe her that private detail and may not have a valid reason to expose it as it may jeopardize your relationship and be something you may regret. Good luck with your ultimate choice...
Yeah I agree with Skerb. You have a boyfriend, you're not attracted to her.. if it happens to come up then it comes up, but I wouldn't worry about it too much. I'm pretty gay but I have a boyfriend, I kind of just casually tell people or comment if I think a girl is attractive, or whatever. I just be myself. But I understand its hard for people to tell people about that. If its personal to you, its personal.
I agree with that statement. She should still accept you, but I don't think it's fair to expect her to act exactly the same around you. For instance, if a guy friend revealed to me that he was gay, I would feel much more comfortable undressing infront of him. Since you've known you are bisexual for a long time it doesn't seem like a big deal to you, but to your BEST friend it will most likely be a big deal. Give her time to adjust, act weird about it, etc. Once she gets used to it and sees that you aren't going to prey on her or anything goofy like that things should level out.
what an idiotic comment. totally irrelevant my view on this circumstance is to tell her. through you not telling her i believe that it could opress you which could result in you being unhappy. the worst thing that could happen is that she wouldn't want to be your friend anymore. if she acts a bit different (not understanding and respecting you) then demote her. sorry about the punctuation etc just abit lazy PEACE
I still disagree.. I told a long time friend of mine a secret that I knew for a while. I lost that friend. If i could turn back time i would not have told them. I was careless, and failed to assess the situation fully. I could live with the secret, our friendship would be the same and we'd both be the better for it. Looking back, i don't know why i revealed something, i was not troubled or confronted.. just 'unilaterally' offered some information. i say wait for it to be relevant or appropriate to be honest, don't drop a "BOMBSHELL" on them..
I gotta admit the part of the post that caught my eye was the 'Spritual abilities' and how that seems to be as equally a secret as being bi. So I gotta ask. What are your spirtual abilities and why won't you discuss them with your best friend.
Congrats! You've figured out at 17 what most don't - there's a difference between being bi, being open minded and being hedonistic but sometimes they all look like the same thing.
Honestly yes there was a very small chance of a 'hopeful' outcome. but 99% was being drunk (thus careless and stupid)... i reflected on it later and realized the outcomes must be weighed carefully from now on. and this is a great situation where i would apply that experience/knowledge.. thx
Yeah go for it if she dosn't accept it or you then shes not worth bein friends with anyway, but im sure she will be ok with it! Edit: sorry didnt see the bit about you not being bi jus bein open minded
my wife figured out she was bisexual and now we have the most aweesome threesomes and foursomes and more.we are now swingers and love the lifestyle..hit me up.
